Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 2:58pm

It wasn't done before you purchased the house, you had to do it with your own money, it was a burden...based on your logic.  It wasn't a burden in reality, but only in your logic.

Good try with trying to twist everything around. The bold up above is incorrect.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:00pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">They are examples morty, you have now decided that our (as in the ones who actually posted examples) examples don't fit your specifically, which of course wasn't the point.  You are doing your best to not agree, I don't know why.  You didn't agree that I said your memories are tied to money and you don't agree that there are free things for you to do...so what's left?   Nothing, and that's where you are...being disagreeable.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I am not agreeing as you just sent samples of anything and I explained each one. Not sure why that would be any different than what anyone else would do. All I got here was zoo's and museums and walking. How about you pull up the ones in YOUR area and tell me which ones you and your family would have interest in right now too and how you find them to be totally free.</span></strong></p>

Why do you continue to make this about you?  There are many ways (that many people have listed) that one can make memories without a cost or a very low cost....get over it already, it's not about you.

I've already listed my examples, you responded to them, you didn't agree with them.  Why you don't agree with what I do in my life to make memories with my kids, I don't know...but the mocking from you and thardy about memories that aren't tied to money are pretty sad on your part.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:02pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Morty, can't you just enjoy cleaning up your yard together as a family for free!?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">It's one of Bord's free family activities that bonds everyone together.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Yeah that sounds like a TON of fun-NOT lol. My kids won't be remembering cleaning the yard for years to come and asking to do over and over. lol.</strong></p>

You guys never played in leaf piles?  Tossed leaves at each other?  Planted a garden together?  What about snow?  Are you telling me that you guys have never played in the snow together either?  

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:02pm

Why do you continue to make this about you?  There are many ways (that many people have listed) that one can make memories without a cost or a very low cost....get over it already, it's not about you.

Why wouldn't I answer them about ME when these are things that you and Bord have said YOU do for free (or so you think they are free lol)?

I've already listed my examples, you responded to them, you didn't agree with them.  Why you don't agree with what I do in my life to make memories with my kids, I don't know...but the mocking from you and thardy about memories that aren't tied to money are pretty sad on your part.

Not really, you just can't accept the fact that most things are NOT free.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:04pm

You guys never played in leaf piles?

As a kid? Nope. We didn't rake the leaves and I can remember maybe just 1 or 2 times doing that. We did other things outside.

Tossed leaves at each other?

Not really enough for it to be a memory.

Planted a garden together?

No

What about snow?  Are you telling me that you guys have never played in the snow together either?  

My parents didn't play in the snow with us. My kids usually play together while my dh shovels. I HATE the cold and bundling up so I come out to help if I have to but I am not running around in the snow, no.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:05pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>I think kids remember both but it is usually the things out of their ordinary day that kids enjoy that they remember the most and ask to do again and again. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I don't know that I agree.  I do think that kids will remember the out of the ordinary. I do think they'll remember the expensive.  But I also think that often times - maybe even more often - the things that are the really meaningful, long lasting memories are the everyday things.</p><p>For instance, one of my fondest memories of my dad and me is that I used to pretend to fall asleep on the floor in the living room so that he'd carry me upstairs to bed.  I loved the feel of being all sleepy in his arms.  (I later found out he always knew I was faking ... but he enjoyed it too, so he played along.)  Another great memory (which happened quite often) is of my parents sitting around the fireplace singing and playing guitars.   And of my dad asking "Quick! Who is this?" everytime a Moody Blues song came on the radio.  And of my mom singing the absurdly wrong lyrics to so many songs. </p><p>I remember our Disney trip. Sure.  But I remember those things above much more often and much more fondly.</p>

I remember sitting outside, listening to the radio with the baseball game in the summer.  The parents in their lawnchairs on the deck and us kids chasing fire flies and putting them in empty mayo jars with holes in the lid.  I remember the whole family in the backyard at my grandparents house, same thing...radio on, fireflies and lots and lots of laughter.

I remember Disney, but it doesn't meant the same thing to me as those memories.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:06pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Because it didn't matter, what part was confusing?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why didn't it matter? Please explain.</span></strong></p>

You are the one that said it didn't matter, I agreed with you.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:06pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">So then, why can't one be free?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, there is NO free ones by me. Sigh.....</span></strong></p>

So, the example is not valid?   It's not about you.  Really.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:07pm
mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Because it didn't matter, what part was confusing?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why didn't it matter? Please explain.</span></strong></p>

You are the one that said it didn't matter, I agreed with you.

Yes, you agreed. Do you know WHAT you are agreeing to?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:10pm

<<Not really as the parks I have talked about are playgrounds for kids or places where they play sports. Not sure why I would just walk around them. I have my neighborhood if I wanted to walk or the track nearby. Other than that, I would have to go and drive to find something with "scenary" (if that is what you are speaking of a "park").>>

You don't just go for a walk?  You don't have trees in your parks to walk around?

<<You can go back and read my posts. You must have passed them by. >>

Well, until you post them again or repeat...I will go with they don't exsist.  Too many previous made up comments and remarks for me to take you at your word, sorry.  :)

<Because memories are not "tied" to money but MANY, if not MOST memories REQUIRE money (at one time or another). >>

I think memories shouldn't be about money, I'm sorry that you don't have any that aren't tied to money.


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