Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:20pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">It wasn't done before you purchased the house, <strong>you had to do it with your own money</strong>, it was a burden...based on your logic.  It wasn't a burden in reality, but only in your logic.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Good try with trying to twist everything around. The bold up above is incorrect.</span></span></strong></p>

So you didn't remodel the kitchen with your own money, your parents paid for that too?  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:22pm

<<Why wouldn't I answer them about ME when these are things that you and Bord have said YOU do for free (or so you think they are free lol)?>>

Again, you asked for examples and we gave you examples.  It's not about you, really.   But hey, keep mocking along...



PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:23pm

So you didn't remodel the kitchen with your own money, your parents paid for that too?  

Wonder why you can't find the things I said when you have responded to many posts about this and still didn't get what I was saying.

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:25pm

<<As a kid? Nope. We didn't rake the leaves and I can remember maybe just 1 or 2 times doing that. We did other things outside.>>

And what was the cost for those things, did you make a note of how much it cost to do those things outside?

<<My parents didn't play in the snow with us. My kids usually play together while my dh shovels. I HATE the cold and bundling up so I come out to help if I have to but I am not running around in the snow, no.>>

See I have (and my kids have) memories of playing together in the snow, in the leaves, planting a garden together, and just general play in the back yard.  Playing is free.  :)


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:25pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Because it didn't matter, what part was confusing?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Why didn't it matter? Please explain.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You are the one that said it didn't matter, I agreed with you.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Yes, you agreed. Do you know WHAT you are agreeing to?</strong></p>

Yes, I quoted and everything!

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:27pm

<<Yes, around my neighborhood or on the track. No, no trees in the parks in walking distance or close to drive to that I would walk around. Mostly things for the kids to play on and sports things. >>

No trees in the local park?  I thought this was a really great area with lots of things in walking distance and you don't even have a simple park with trees within walking distance?

<<Not sure why it is MY responsibility to go back and look for things I know I posted. You want to see them, do the research. They are there.>>

I didn't say it was, I just said I don't believe you that they are there.  shrug.

<<Neither do I nor I said they should be or that mine my memories include money. >>

Yet, there are 100s of your comments that say otherwise.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:28pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>mortyswiffeelee</em> wrote:</div>&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;div style="font-weight:bold"&gt;&lt;em&gt;mortyswiffeelee&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;Right, I just don't see the moms who've suggested it "snuggling" with their college-age and teen age sons.  I've got 2 huggers.  That's not bad.  But I sure wouldn't put that in the WIN column under ~ woohoo, a free activity.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:small"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;lol. It is great to hug and snuggle but, yeah, I wouldn't say, ok kids tonight how about we snuggle to save some money as there doesn't seem to be anything free around to do. Bawahhhaa...My kids would look at me like I am INSANE. lol&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Why do you like to make up things?  That is so odd...&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What did I make up?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">OH the whole thing, well thardy started the make belief comments and you just added more dramatics.  Bravo!</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Go back and re-read that post. I was responding to something that was posted. I did not make it up.  </strong></p>

I don't need to, I quoted it and I read it the first time...make believe made up comments.  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:29pm

mortyswiffeelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">As I said, I did and didn't find any.  You are of course free to repost those examples, you know since you claim that you already did. Yes, you say lots of things in this thread, I don't believe the majority of them, past history...I'm sure you understand.  :)</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>You did not look if you didn't find any. </span></span></strong></p>

That is not true, another false statement.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:29pm

<<As a kid? Nope. We didn't rake the leaves and I can remember maybe just 1 or 2 times doing that. We did other things outside.>>

And what was the cost for those things, did you make a note of how much it cost to do those things outside?

As a kid, I didn't care about the cost, just as I am sure my kids don't care now. As an adult, you realize that almost everything comes with a cost.

<<My parents didn't play in the snow with us. My kids usually play together while my dh shovels. I HATE the cold and bundling up so I come out to help if I have to but I am not running around in the snow, no.>>

See I have (and my kids have) memories of playing together in the snow, in the leaves, planting a garden together, and just general play in the back yard.  Playing is free.  :)

I played outside as a kid too. Riding a bike is play, but it is not free for the bike. But again, as a child you don't realize that. An adult only realizes that now when they are the ones paying for things.


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Fri, 11-01-2013 - 3:30pm

<<Nope. I have said that MOST things require money to do. I didn't say that I tied them together with my memories.>>

Yes, you disagreed with me many times on this very issue, in this thread.

<<I guess people are different then. Shrug.>>

Of course!



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