Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 7:41am
LOL! I hate auto-correct! I'll fix that!
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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 7:35am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p>How is doing puzzles together and riding nukes together not " playing together?" Seems like you have a lot of good memories interacting with your Dad, Jamblessed. As it should be!</p>

Yes, riding nukes together is a good bonding experience. 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 7:07am
Who is attacking different experiences? I mean, except Thardy? I'm not, except I don't really care for child neglect. And I think a child whose parents never interact with him or her is emotionally neglected. I didn't say anyone here was neglectful or neglected, though. It was hypothetical.
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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 5:23am

Thank you for your honesty morty, Others not so much or they've turned over new leaves now. I do most chores but I do call Saturday morning the day we all pitch in if just a little bit, Lol.

 

 

 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 5:18am
DH was raised in an alchoholic home, I can't imagine going home to a drunken father on a couch like that. That should warrant a call to cps...

 

 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 5:16am

Morttyswifelee wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px"><span style="font-size:small">&lt;&lt;Oh well then it wont work for me then. The things you mentioned, putting on music, singing, I do myself.  Thought there were more things you do for fun with cleaning but it seems you do them just to motivate your kids to clean.&gt;&gt;</span></p><p style="font-size:13px"><span style="font-size:small">There are more, as I said earlier.  Yes, I do things to motivate my kids to clean, i<strong>s there something wrong with kids helping to clean the home they live in?  </strong></span></p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong><span style="font-size:small">No, did I say there was?</span></strong></p>

Maybe it's like the two bite rule, You are given a mop and bucket and have to clean, You learn to like it...  Shudder..

 

 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 5:10am

My dad was a hard worker too, like you he was a teacher, he taught all day then brought home papers to grade.  Mom stayed at home, we always ate together but there wasn't a whole lot of playing together.  We did appreciate the little things, we watched tv together, there were crosswords and other puzzles, Dad taught me to whistle, Lol and he taught me to ride my bike, there are some great memories at the swim club too...  This is an interesting turn, all the talk over the years about childhood and you being deprived of things you make up for with your own now.  There's a real lack of empathy in these posts and that is sad. 

 

 

 

 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 4:44am
Why are you attacking different experiences? Sounds like a real vendetta going on... So sorry, Busy school week ahead?

 

 

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Mon, 11-04-2013 - 4:40am

Morttyswifelee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">What kinds of things did you do with your father, Morty?</span></p><p><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>When I was younger we would take walks, watch football together, have dinner every night together, go on vacations.</span></span></p>

Yes, Dinner together every night.  We didn't go on "vacations" per se but I have a lot of great memories of Summer, Since it's November I do remember a couple years when we all walked (some ran) in the Turkey trot on Thanksgiving morning, random things like that stand out.  Playing "together" as if its the holy grail of childhood, not so much.

 

 

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Sun, 11-03-2013 - 10:35pm
When I was talking about the child who misses out because the parent never plays with them, I was speaking generally and hypothetically, Morty. It wasn't about you. You might find it easier to get along with people if you realized that in life, about 90% of the time of more, it really isn't about you.

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