Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 6:58pm

You might note that my comments said nothing about family.  And of course there are other people that just friends, perhaps I just iive in a society that is generally nicer?  I tend to find that if I'm nice, than I get nice in return.  :)

Either you are very naive or you don't get out much and meet many people. 

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 7:24pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">You might note that my comments said nothing about family.  And of course there are other people that just friends, perhaps I just iive in a society that is generally nicer?  I tend to find that if I'm nice, than I get nice in return.  :)</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Either you are very naive or you don't get out much and meet many people. </span></strong></p>

Neither, I don't live in your black and white world, remember?  My guess is that since I am a generally nice person, that I generally receive nice reponses in return, I realize that ymmv.  

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 7:45pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Perhaps we just choose our friends more wisely in real life? </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">You DO realize that you can NOT choose family, right? AND...there are OTHER people but just friends in life, unless that is all you associate with on a daily basis.</span></strong></p>

You didn't chose to marry your spouse? I hadn't realized you had an arranged marriage...

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:23pm

Neither, I don't live in your black and white world, remember?  

My life is not black and white, as much as you think it is.

My guess is that since I am a generally nice person, that I generally receive nice reponses in return, I realize that ymmv.

OMG lololol. Talk about not knowing many different types of people. 


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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:25pm

You didn't chose to marry your spouse? I hadn't realized you had an arranged marriage...

Where did I say my spouses family? You choose your spouse for his family?

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:41pm

<<My life is not black and white, as much as you think it is.>>

I believe that, because frankly I can't imagine living like that.  However, your posts don't reflect that reality.  You might want to think about that sometimes when you make black and white statements.

<<OMG lololol. Talk about not knowing many different types of people.>>

Oh I know them, I just receive better responses from them because I'm not mocking or intolerant of people's differences.  Therefore I get a better response than someone who lol and mocks people, you might try it sometime.  :)


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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 9:27pm
If there's anybody that has a wide circle of friends its you morty.

 

 

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 9:38pm

<<My life is not black and white, as much as you think it is.>>

I believe that, because frankly I can't imagine living like that.  However, your posts don't reflect that reality.  You might want to think about that sometimes when you make black and white statements.

Nope, you just WANT them to look black and white and NEVER read what I actually post.

<<OMG lololol. Talk about not knowing many different types of people.>>

Oh I know them, I just receive better responses from them because I'm not mocking or intolerant of people's differences.  Therefore I get a better response than someone who lol and mocks people, you might try it sometime.  :)

Again, I KNOW you do NOT know people like that AT ALL. 

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 9:41pm

If there's anybody that has a wide circle of friends its you morty.

Yep AND family. PKA has NO clue what type of different people I know and have come in contact with. I usually bring my dh into the mix because of how VERY different his family and friends were but after getting older and going to work and just meeting people through so many different avenues, I can EASILY say that I know how people ARE very different than myself AND that nothing is black and white. She just paints me with a brush that I only know people who are like me, which makes NO sense because NO ONE is EXACTLY like me. lol.

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 10:37pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">You didn't chose to marry your spouse? I hadn't realized you had an arranged marriage...</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Where did I say my spouses family? You choose your spouse for his family?</span></span></strong></p>

You said you can't choose family. I chose to marry my husband. He's family. Which means that you can, indeed, choose your family. And to answer your question, I choose my spouse because I love him. His family was a bonus.

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