Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 11:15am

If you know so many people, how can you not know that there are a lot of good people out there that don't resort to that type of behavior?

Did I say I otherwise?

Do you not know people who are nice?

Where did I say I didn't?

FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years. I thought for 5 years it was ME until I found out from the rest of this person's family that they ALWAYS liked me and NEVER felt the way this person did, EVER. THAT is why I have many friends and have gotten along with family members. I DO know the BAD out there in life though that not EVERYONE is nice. Unfortunately (and maybe it is fortunately for me to grow stronger) I have had to learn the hard way.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 1:33pm

<<If you know so many people, how can you not know that there are a lot of good people out there that don't resort to that type of behavior?

Did I say I otherwise?

Do you not know people who are nice?

Where did I say I didn't?>>

You didn't say either, you didn't answer my questions but intead asked your own.  That was after you called me either naive or unsocial I believe because I am generally around nice people.   So which is it today?

<<FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years. I thought for 5 years it was ME until I found out from the rest of this person's family that they ALWAYS liked me and NEVER felt the way this person did, EVER. THAT is why I have many friends and have gotten along with family members. I DO know the BAD out there in life though that not EVERYONE is nice. Unfortunately (and maybe it is fortunately for me to grow stronger) I have had to learn the hard way.>>

So why on earth do you call me naive and/or unsocial because I am generally around nice people?  I mean other than to simply disagree and attempt to insult me.


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:01pm

<<If you know so many people, how can you not know that there are a lot of good people out there that don't resort to that type of behavior?

Did I say I otherwise?

Do you not know people who are nice?

Where did I say I didn't?>>

You didn't say either, you didn't answer my questions but intead asked your own.  That was after you called me either naive or unsocial I believe because I am generally around nice people.   So which is it today?

Again, if I didn't say I didn't know nice people, why are you making the assumption that I don't?

<<FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years. I thought for 5 years it was ME until I found out from the rest of this person's family that they ALWAYS liked me and NEVER felt the way this person did, EVER. THAT is why I have many friends and have gotten along with family members. I DO know the BAD out there in life though that not EVERYONE is nice. Unfortunately (and maybe it is fortunately for me to grow stronger) I have had to learn the hard way.>>

So why on earth do you call me naive and/or unsocial because I am generally around nice people?

Naive that you have NEVER known the type of people I have since you have stated that the people you know are nice.

I mean other than to simply disagree and attempt to insult me.

No insult. You are LUCKY that you don't know the type of people I have met and have had to deal with. Believe me, it is NO insult.

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:04pm

<<If you know so many people, how can you not know that there are a lot of good people out there that don't resort to that type of behavior?

Did I say I otherwise?

Do you not know people who are nice?

Where did I say I didn't?>>

You didn't say either, you didn't answer my questions but intead asked your own.  That was after you called me either naive or unsocial I believe because I am generally around nice people.   So which is it today?

I didn't say I didn't know nice people so why are you assuming I don't?

<<FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years. I thought for 5 years it was ME until I found out from the rest of this person's family that they ALWAYS liked me and NEVER felt the way this person did, EVER. THAT is why I have many friends and have gotten along with family members. I DO know the BAD out there in life though that not EVERYONE is nice. Unfortunately (and maybe it is fortunately for me to grow stronger) I have had to learn the hard way.>>

So why on earth do you call me naive and/or unsocial because I am generally around nice people?

Naive that you have no clue about the type of people I have known and had to deal with since you have said that you only know nice people because you are nice. 

I mean other than to simply disagree and attempt to insult me.

You are LUCKY then not to have had the experiences I have had and believe me, it is NO insult to you.

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:14pm

How do you reconcile this statements:

<<FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years.>>

 

With this one:

<<Naive that you have no clue about the type of people I have known and had to deal with since you have said that you only know nice people because you are nice. ...You are LUCKY then not to have had the experiences I have had and believe me, it is NO insult to you.>>

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:20pm

How do you reconcile this statements:

<<FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years.>>

 With this one:

<<Naive that you have no clue about the type of people I have known and had to deal with since you have said that you only know nice people because you are nice. ...You are LUCKY then not to have had the experiences I have had and believe me, it is NO insult to you.>>

Please explain as I have stated that I was not told for FIVE years that certain people DID like me and had NO problem with me. 

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:26pm

mortyswifelee wrote:
Please explain as I have stated that I was not told for FIVE years that certain people DID like me and had NO problem with me. </span></strong></p>

Ok, let me walk you through this  - SLOWLY.

If you have only ever had one person in your life that you didn't get along with, then how you can you have had "experiences" with the type of "people" that are not nice?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 2:38pm

Ok, let me walk you through this  - SLOWLY.

If you have only ever had one person in your life that you didn't get along with, then how you can you have had "experiences" with the type of "people" that are not nice?

Do you think that because I only have had a problem with ONE person, I did not know others who did the same thing to other people? I just never had a problem with them. Different relationships with them. 

(and yes, most of these people ran in the same circle)

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 3:57pm

<<I didn't say I didn't know nice people so why are you assuming I don't?>>

<<I didn't say I didn't know nice people so why are you assuming I don't?>>

Again, because you told me that i was naive of anti social based on my comments about generally only knowing nice people.  You seem to think that it was odd to mostlyl know nice people

<<Naive that you have no clue about the type of people I have known and had to deal with since you have said that you only know nice people because you are nice. <<

You don't know that and no, that isn't what I said.   


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 3:58pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p>How do you reconcile this statements:</p><p>&lt;&lt;<span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"><strong>FYI I have only NOT gotten along (and it has nothing to do with ME) with ONE person in my 42 years.&gt;&gt;</strong></span></p><p> </p><p>With this one:</p><p>&lt;&lt;<strong><span style="font-size:x-small">Naive that you have no clue about the type of people I have known and had to deal with since you have said that you only know nice people because you are nice. </span></strong>...<strong><span style="font-size:x-small">You are LUCKY then not to have had the experiences I have had and believe me, it is NO insult to you.&gt;&gt;</span></strong></p>

Yea Sav, doesn't it sound almost exactly like my comments about mostly only knowing nice people?  

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