Moms who know better than you

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Moms who know better than you
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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 8:02am

Kind of joking there.  But the other day I met a mom who was certain she knew which area schools were the best.  I told her my children are happily in public school, but upon entering middle school and/or upon entering 8th grade, if any of mine wants, then we'll take a tour of all of the schools in the area ~ private, several Catholic.  Not a Catholic, lol, she told me unequivocally that, yes, I needed to take my children on a tour of the local Catholic schools NOW because they are the best schools in the area.  Because of course her kids went there.   Her children graduated from high school long ago, but I never quite got my answer on what they were all doing now.  Wink

Anyway, the "conversation" (monologue?) continued until my friend saw me cornered.  Has this kind of thing happened to you ~ older mom telling you how to do it better?  How do you handle moms with children older than yours who are a little too liberal and pushy with their advices?  ....Have you ever been that mom?

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:24pm

mortyswifeee wrote:
You are saying since you are nice, you receive nice responses. </strong></p></div>

Generally. Tend to.

She hasn't stated or implied that this is always, with all people.

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:25pm

I didn't do any run around, I have already explained my comments multiple times, what part of generaly and tend still isn't clear to you?   I stated in my first post in this thread that I have encountered people like this, please go back and read my comments if they are still unclear to you.

Yes and you said you were just nice to them so they were nice to you. And? This is NOT what we are talking about.

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:30pm
mortyswifeee wrote:
You are saying since you are nice, you receive nice responses. </strong></p></div>

Generally. Tend to.

She hasn't stated or implied that this is always, with all people.

Therefore I get a better response than someone who lol and mocks people, you might try it sometime.  :)

Who said ANYTHING about mocking people. Jams and I were both talking about normal conversations and things IRL. I would love to hear examples if you keep saying "general" and "tend" which means that PKA TOTALLY understands what we are talking about. I will be waiting.
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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:32pm

mortyswifeee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I didn't realize you had turned this into a competition.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Not a competition. I would not want anyone else to have to go through what I have gone through. Just a statement from telling people my stories that they have never met people like I have. Maybe you have.</span></strong></p>

Sure sounds like one...but good to know.  Why do you tell other people your stories, what purpose does that serve?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:36pm

Sure sounds like one...but good to know.  Why do you tell other people your stories, what purpose does that serve?

What purpose? To know what I was going through. They are friends, family. They care.

So no stories from you? Sounds like you have been pretty lucky then. Don't think it is a competition as I have stated I would never wish this upon anyone. Actually one of my girlfriends is involved with the same "circle" so she comes to me now telling me what she is going through. 

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:36pm

mortyswifeee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Anyone else see the irony here?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Why are you asking anyone else their opinion? You have never answered my question. Would you like to answer it now?</span></strong></p>

I was asking for other peoples observations of the irony of that situation.  I have answered your questions, as I have said numerous times now, it was addressed in my original statements and has been addressed through my later statements.  You have simply chosen not to read those statements as written, instead interjecting your own language into those statements.  

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:38pm

mortyswifeee wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"So again, have you encountered the type of people WE have that you just can not be "nice" to them for them to change how they are towards you are anyone else. Please explain if your answer is yes." Of course, we all have. Several of them are on this board. When you run into people like that you deal with them on your own terms. In the case of board people, hang around as long as you are amused and having fun, and then go off and live your own life when it's no longer fun. In real life, it's harder of course, if you are related to those people or if you work for them, but generally you can work around those issues, as well. There is no constitutional requirement that anyone consort with toxic people against his or her own will.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">There is NO ONE on this board as bad as what I have encountered. Even the sharp tongues is NOTHING close.</span></strong></p>

Perhaps she means the times that it's left this board and turned towards stalking children through a fake facebook account?  That is pretty bad in my opinion, stalking minor children?  Yikes.

 

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:38pm

I was asking for other peoples observations of the irony of that situation.  I have answered your questions, as I have said numerous times now, it was addressed in my original statements and has been addressed through my later statements.  You have simply chosen not to read those statements as written, instead interjecting your own language into those statements.  

Since you really have not, consider yourself quite lucky to not have to deal with the things I have. Again, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. 

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:38pm

Why are you changing the subject PKA?

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Fri, 10-25-2013 - 3:42pm

<<I don't know about you, but I'm generally not forced or confined in places where I don't have a choice of my company ,ymmv of course.  

So you really do NOT know what I am speaking of. >>

No, that's not what I'm saying so let me give you the definition of generally again.   http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/generally

<<And no your "seem to be inexperienced"  is not true.

Why not? Please explain. Do you have some examples?>>

Because it's a false, the opposite of true.  This is another case of your assuming before getting the facts, that is a poor choice again. 

<<No one is making up anything about your life. I asked a question. You have not answered it yet. >>

You are making assumptions about my life without facts, stop already.  I have answered all of your questions, it is not my fault that you choose not to read or comprehend what is written.


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