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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 7:52am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

What's on your agenda this week?

 

 

 

 

 

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 9:41am

Cool, a new diversion!

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

My oldest was born a little more than a year after we were married, so not long.

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

At times over the years there were things that I missed doing (sleep, eating with two hands, going to the bathroom by myself, etc) but those were short phases in life more than permanent situations.  

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

Pretty much, so yes.

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

I don't know what you mean by this, will you explain?

What's on your agenda this week?

OH boy, lots as usual.  Work stuff, kid stuff, life stuff and the like. 

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 9:45am
You misunderstand me, Jambles. The child was at near-perfect peace. The parents and siblings were not.
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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 9:55am
Kids I know striken with cancer and other terminal illness are there too, I do think there's a common link b/w them and their families however. I'd never come straight out and tell them that though.

 

 

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:01am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married? my ex husband and I waited nearly 10 years... I think.. It's a little fuzzy LOL

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what? not anymore- when the girl was little maybe .. but my life now is pretty similar to how it was pre kids- lots of social time, trips with my wife and trips with the girl etc.. now that she's 14 it's pretty awesome... ;-)  I am so happy having a teenager- makes those horrible long awful early years all worth it.

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 10 years ago I was just beginning to dream that my life might be able to turn out this way but I was terrified of what I'd have to do to get here.. 20 years ago was 3 years into my first marriage ..relatively happy, hoping to make it work forever, and pretty good at squashing who I really was.

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it? while I make alot of jokes about self actualization (usually involving a drumming circle) I think I really went through this when I came out of the closet and began living an authentic life..

What's on your agenda this week? The girl comes home (hurray!) and has 3 days of some theater workshops, hoping to get in some pool time, some nights on the deck and really soak up the fact that summer is finally here!

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:07am

bordwithyou wrote:
It means that her parents used every possible means they could think of to make her interact with a world she was perfectly content to ignore, because at some point, the parental gods would no longer be able to, or be around to, fulfill her every need so that she could remain on that state of perfect contentment.

Wow.  It is fair to say you know nothing about autism.

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:09am
Jams wrote: "It's the opposite of pretending you're somebody you're really not." ---------- If that is the definition, I have been "self-actualized" as long as I can remember.
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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:09am

jamblessedthree wrote:
This leaves me wondering what lies ahead in the next 10 years, Lol. I will have a 25 year old, 24 year old and 20 year old, Wowzers! But I'd like to get into something I really want to do too, partly why I've chosen to return to school.

Jamblessed, how's this for timely!  ;)

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:10am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

Two. We waited two years and it took another three to actually have the kid.

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

None. We did a lot in those five years (traveling, mostly) and I look forward to someday returning to that lifestyle, but I'm enjoying the life with my kids ATM.

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

It's better than I expected.

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

No.

What's on your agenda this week?

Some special stuff for a special kid.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:14am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

We started TTC 4 years after we got married. 

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

Just getting up and doing things at anytime. It is getting better with the kids doing their own thing but we still have to figure out about getting a sitter or who he is going with when we both go out. 

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

I didn't have "expectations". We knew we wanted to own a home before we had kids which we did. We are just living life. 

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

I just do things to my best ability.

What's on your agenda this week?

Besides working all week, Zumba tonight, Kickboxing Wed. night, Ballet Toning Thurs. night, DD school sports physical, Concert Fri night, Comedy Club Sat night and anything else that comes up as it always does (like this weekend when I thought we had nothing and then got a last minute invite).

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 10:14am
"Kids I know striken with cancer and other terminal illness are there too, I do think there's a common link b/w them and their families however. I'd never come straight out and tell them that though." --------- How do you mean? WHat is it you wouldn't tell them?

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