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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 7:52am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

What's on your agenda this week?

 

 

 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:30pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
Yes you have, bord. Maybe I'm confusing you saying it here for you saying it on the other debate board but it's out there.

Yep, Jamblessed.  You are correct.  Bord, the great educator, earlier concluded autistic children are in a state of nirvana:

bordwithyou wrote:
  In that case, most everyone I know is "self-actualized." The "pretending/posing" bit usually wears off in high school or late teens, IME. I'm thinking that the most content/at peace person I ever observed was the severely autistic daughter of a friend, who at the age of three, had all if her needs met and was blissfully happy and at peace as long as she could sit by the window and sift puzzle pieces through her fingers. Funny how her patents lay siege to that particular state of nirvana.

bordwithyou wrote:
  It means that her parents used every possible means they could think of to make her interact with a world she was perfectly content to ignore, because at some point, the parental gods would no longer be able to, or be around to, fulfill her every need so that she could remain on that state of perfect contentment.

Talk about ignorance.

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:29pm

ducky1st89 wrote:
<p>"The fact of the matter is their days are eased by support groups and relationships with other families that understand what they're going through,"</p><p>Are you kidding me?  "their days are eased"?  Good grief woman, you are as cold as ice......</p><p>"The reality is I don't think you know a whole lot, Count your blessings."</p><p>Jambles, this isn't a pissing match. How do you even sleep at night?</p>

Judgement after judgement..  And this time at the cost of sick children:(

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:28pm

"The fact of the matter is their days are eased by support groups and relationships with other families that understand what they're going through,"

Are you kidding me?  "their days are eased"?  Good grief woman, you are as cold as ice......

"The reality is I don't think you know a whole lot, Count your blessings."

Jambles, this isn't a pissing match. How do you even sleep at night?

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:27pm
"But to assume that families must be distraught and depressed at every turn" --------- Nobody said that. People said that it is a very difficult situation for a parent, even WITH support, and it is definitely not unicorns and rainbow farts, even if that is what you see on a caringbridge page.
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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:27pm

Lest me add, Cancer is one of the hardest diseases out there IMO, harder to watch a child suffer through it. But to assume that families must be distraught and depressed at every turn is what I sure hope no family feels they must resort to hence my defense for support communities both online and face to face. Having a child recently diagnosed with a terminal illness I can tell you that most of those children on her floor that weekend were more sick than her. There are many, many resources on that floor offering services than just medical doctors treating the diseases. 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:25pm
Jams wrote: "I didn't call caring bridge the be all/end all of support groups for ill children/families. There is a larger circle in support for families wiht sick children ..." ------------- Nobody said you did. Yes, there are all kinds of support out there. The fact that it exists is not proof that parents of seriously ill children live peaceful, tranquil and lovely lives.
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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:24pm

Bea, that is so sad.  The reality is, the majority do not want the realities of life with an ill child, they want soundbites, and inspiration....

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:22pm
"You mean consoling. Counseling is certainly a program many are in/many are getting too." ----------- Huh? No, I mean counseling. Many people facing a dire illness get counseling. Most decent hospitals offer it to cancer patients and the parents of children with cancer. Also, many support groups are led by licensed psychologists. In general, Jams, if I write something, the word you see written is usually the word I intended you to see (the occasional typo notwithstanding).
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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:21pm
I didn't call caring bridge the be all/end all of support groups for ill children/families. There is a larger circle in support for families wiht sick children than who you know too bea.

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 3:21pm

BeaArthurisMyReligion wrote:
<p>isn't it littlemiss?  She has friends and family who don't want 'depressing' updates... some source of support huh?</p>

Yes I think a lot of people's idea of support with this kind of thing is to tell the parent that God wouldnt' give them more than they could handle...which is crap.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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