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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 7:52am

If you are married, How many years did you wait- if any - to have children after getting married?

Are there any things you miss doing before kids?  If so, what?

Is your life now what you expected it would be 10 or 20 years ago? 

At what point do you self actualize?  Do you believe in it?

What's on your agenda this week?

 

 

 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 1:45pm
Thank you for your contributions PKA.

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 1:51pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Jambles, your comment about not judging a special-needs parent is an outright lie, since you've spent plenty of time judging me for the way we've handled our special needs son. You'd better fix that, cuz of right now, you're just as in eligible for the sacrament of Eucharist in your church as I am.

Wow bord.  Your choice to school your kid at a private school b/c of incompetent public school teachers ( --> your words not mine! ) is debatable, So is your knowledge of the catholic faith and doctrine. 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 1:57pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">litlmiss_cantbewrong</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;Kids I know striken with cancer and other terminal illness are there too, I do think there's a common link b/w them and their families however. I'd never come straight out and tell them that though.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You think families with autistic children are in general at peace and filled with bliss?  And you think families with children whose children have a terminal illness are at peace and in a blissful state also?  My experiencew would be the opposite.  I must be misunderstanding you--it's commonly known that these families are so assaulted with stress they have a very high rate of divorce.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Unless you have hard evidence to support this it's only your opinion.   And let me add that I have plenty of my own experience in families that are together and working through trials and that of their disabled and ill children.  Perhaps those you know with dismal family lives should surround themselves with others who are managing it well?  Heck, You should be a source for those resources yourself, You work in special ed, don't you? </p>

http://www.hospiceworld.org/book/children.htm

Hospice says: The divorce rate is very high after a child dies. Tension arises because of the needs of each parent to grieve (both before and after the death). Unless a couple can “alternate their grief” while supporting their partners, communication problems arise.

If you want to believe that before their child dies of a terminal illness, most parents are all happy & in  bliss, that's your choice.  Luckily my life is not full of "dismal families," that's quite a smarmy and mean thing to assume about me.  When I mentioned families with autistic children, I meant families with children with very serious autism or other very serious issues (not your average learning disability, which to most parents is stressful also, but not in the way I was talking of) in which the parents have real actual concerns about how their child will be able to survive when they pass away.  I don't find that a trivial concern and I would not bring up one familiy who has an autistic  child who is happy and serene about his disability and functioning and lay that to assume that all parents are like that. 

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:05pm
Yes, Ignorance is bliss thardy.

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:11pm

How familiar are you with caring bridge cantbewrong?

http://www.caringbridge.org/

And this nonsense, most parents are all happy & in bliss I've never said. You really need to stop putting words in my mouth.  Thanks.

 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:12pm

"Wow bord. Your choice to school your kid at a private school b/c of incompetent public school teachers ( --> your words not mine! ) is debatable, So is your knowledge of the catholic faith and doctrine.

Jambles, what is your deal.  Can you not have a conversation without commenting on how debateable bord's (or pka's) choices for her own kids are....Seriously, it's a bit ridiculous that you bring this up in every.single.thread.

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Ducky

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:15pm
"How familiar are you with caring bridge ...." So, a sight that shares encouraging stories and hope is your proof that families with terminally ill children are living in bliss? Really? Jambles, I don't think that you even have a clue about that of which you speak....

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Ducky

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:23pm

ducky1st89 wrote:
"How familiar are you with caring bridge ...." So, a sight that shares encouraging stories and hope is your proof that families with terminally ill children are living in bliss? Really? Jambles, I don't think that you even have a clue about that of which you speak....

It's a popular site, meaning it's followers number the thousands if not millions.  Yes, it does support the point I made about the peace many families find in raising ill children.  I'm sorry you fail to understand that and chose to continually attack my person instead. 

 


 


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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:26pm
Do you actually know anyone living with a severely disabled or ill child, Jambles?

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Ducky

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Mon, 06-24-2013 - 2:31pm
What's the motive behind the question.. I mean if I say I only know one does that make me less informed than someone that may know 100? FYI, I know a lot and I'm lucky there are groups, both face to face and online communities that support and encourage eachother. Caring bridge is just one of thousands, That's not even debatable, It's a fact!

 


 


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