Mundane Monday

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Mundane Monday
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 9:22am

Welcome to a new week :)

1. Has spring "sprung" by you yet?

2. What are you wearing today?

3. Do you make a special menu for Easter (if you celebrate it)? 

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:09pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Again, if EVERYONE on a message board and your FB knows, how is it that a family member that you dine with for years does not know?

She knows. She forgot. You are aware that there is a difference between not knowing and forgetting something, aren't you? In case you aren't--there is a difference between the two.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:10pm

<Jams says: I don't know what you're trying to compare but I'll play.....  MIL smokes and she knows not to smoke in my house so she takes it outside.  I do NOT expect her to be accomodating when we are at her house however.>

How is second-hand smoke analogous to a deadly allergy reaction except in the case of smoking induced asthma? 

My ODS had asthma, induced by smoking, and my MIL and SIL smoked. That child NEVER visited their home, though the other two may have visited once or twice. They were welcome in our home, but it was too dangerous to take my kid to theirs, even if they didn't smoke in his presenc. My child's health was more important than the location of visits with his relatives.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:13pm

[quote=cruisingchick20111]Yes, I would be sure to always remind someone who was cooking for my child who had severe allergies.[/quote

Good for you. And since you've stated repeatedly that you wouldn't accomodate someone w/life threatening allergies for fear of depriving your guests--what would you do when if that person refused to accomodate your child with allergies like you and Jam have said you would do? I'm really curious how you would handle that as the guest instead of the hostess...

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:13pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;&gt;It is something that is not hidden in her family, it is talked about and someone forgot.  Honestly I could handle someone forgeting versus your comments of serving the food and knowing.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Shoot, I'm not RG's family and I knew of her dd's allergies. Granted, when we last ate together it was sushi - and tree nuts and milk aren't commonly found in sushi, but still!</p>

I know and she's such a cute sushi girl!

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:14pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
"When was the last time you socialized with your dh's side of the family?"..... New Years Eve

That's great....nice to hear that you have a different view of them than in the past.  

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:15pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;&amp;gt;It is something that is not hidden in her family, it is talked about and someone forgot.  Honestly I could handle someone forgeting versus your comments of serving the food and knowing.  &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Shoot, I'm not RG's family and I knew of her dd's allergies. Granted, when we last ate together it was sushi - and tree nuts and milk aren't commonly found in sushi, but still!&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I know and she's such a cute sushi girl!</p>

Thanks, ladies. She does love herself some sushi. And Bord. She thinks Bord is the bees knees after that last sushi date...

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:15pm

<< So why do you think her OWN family wouldn't know and remember?>>

What part of they knew but forgot isn't clear?  This isn't really as complex as you are making it out to be.


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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:16pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">litlmiss_cantbewrong</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;The same kind of people who woul be afraid to hurt someone's feelings by not letting them smoke in your house--you might offend them.  Even though other people in the same room might have asthma or other lung conditions.  That's not anyone here, unless anyone wants to volunteer that they do that (and it would have been more releveant in the 70's &amp;amp; 80's) it's just a comparison.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I don't know what you're trying to compare but I'll play.....  MIL smokes and she knows not to smoke in my house so she takes it outside.  I do NOT expect her to be accomodating when we are at her house however. </p>

I was comparing 2 things that can have serious consequences (if one has asthma, not just one doesn't want to be around smoke) that some people/families do to accommodate the person with the illness or perhaps they don't.  My mil also smokes--ok she did stop a year or so after she got Emphysema.  I also never expected her to accommodate us and not smoke when in her house, but she used to leave and go outside when she smoked (even at her house) because I do have allergies.  If one of my children had asthma or cystic fibrosis--some breathing/lung problem, I would not take them in someone's house that smoked.  Doesn't matter who they were or how much they wanted to be in the presence of my child and smoke.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:16pm
She knows but she forgot? Wow, that is really bad. I would hope my kid's aunt would not forget something so HUGE.
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 4:17pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Again, if EVERYONE on a message board and your FB knows, how is it that a family member that you dine with for years does not know?

Sometimes, things slip people's minds.

My very close friend, who knows about my shellfish allergy and will be the first person at the table wanting to know if anything has shellfish in it...before I even get there...once made lo mein for us and forgot  long enough to put oyster sauce in it. Sometimes, people make mistakes.  It was unpleasant at the time but it's not a big deal now and has not affected our relationship, nor was it in any way indicative of discord in the relationship ...although I do sometimes refer to that evening as "that night when you tried to kill me..."   ;)  It's all good, and I'm pretty sure he won't forget again. 


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