Mundane Monday

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Mundane Monday
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 9:22am

Welcome to a new week :)

1. Has spring "sprung" by you yet?

2. What are you wearing today?

3. Do you make a special menu for Easter (if you celebrate it)? 

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Registered: 02-20-2013
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:00pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Littlemiss I am going by the perspective of someone cooking for many people at a holiday dinner. Just like if you don't like chicken and there are 20 other people there that will eat chicken, do you want the host to make you a separate meal because you don't like it? I know she said she brings something different for her that she can eat. I suggested to see if there recipes that the host does not eliminate tree nuts from that her dd could feel like she was eating the same thing as the others so she doesn't feel left out. I would never expect someone who was cooking for a crowd to cater to me or my child's allergies.

As I and others have explained, the host should eliminate the tree nuts b/c of the risk of cross contamination. It isn't that she doesn't like them. They. Could. KILL. her. She doesn't have an aversion, she doesn't dislike them. They could kill her. 

But just to clarify--you think food with tree nuts is more important that a kid's life? Because that's what you're saying. And GL to Tinder and Jam trying to bail you out of this one...

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:01pm
No, I personally would probably ask the parent if I should make a separate dish similar to what everyone else was eating (if they did not insist on doing it first) but I would not eliminate things from everyone's dish to accommodate one person.
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:01pm

Tree nuts are any nut that grows on a tree.  So not peanuts because they grow in the ground evidently.  It probably includes every nut but peanuts-you could google it.  I'm thinking walnuts, almonds (not sure though-I've not seen an almond tree before), pecans.  But if it was my dd it wouldn't matter what kind of nut--you'd need to avoid it, because the person telling you oh it's ok it's a XXX nut, when they actually don't know and it's a YYY nut.  Like restaurant servers--they don't always have accurate information.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:02pm
"Until you have lived it, you have no freaking clue." ----------- It is very scary. My aunt had it twice during chemo. Of all the awful things she has been through, that was the scariest, she said.
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:04pm
I never said tree nuts were more important to a kid's life but how does your inlaws react to this? Do they offer to make something else or have they ever changed their entire meal to accommodate your daughter?
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:04pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
No, I personally would probably ask the parent if I should make a separate dish similar to what everyone else was eating (if they did not insist on doing it first) but I would not eliminate things from everyone's dish to accommodate one person.

Then if we were friends, my family would never ever eat anything in your home or food made by you.  Forgetting is one thing--saying you do not care to accommodate a life threatening allergy is a whole other ball of wax.  I would also re-evaluate our friendship.  

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:05pm
"I'm thinking walnuts, almonds (not sure though-I've not seen an almond tree before), pecans ..." ------------------------- Also hazelnuts.
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:07pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
No backpedaling Littlemiss. I do think that if there is no person who has an allergy, everyone should not suffer though. Should they be aware and considerate, yes but IMO, if my child had an allergy that bad, I would bring my own food and if I had to, I would find something similiar that everyone else was eating without the harmful ingredients so they didn't feel left out. THAT is what I meant. Thanks.

Bringing one's own food does not solve the problem, though.  If I knew that one guest was allergic to a certain food then you're d@mn skippy I wouldn't serve something that contained that food.  All it takes is for one person to accidentally set their serving spoon on top of the "safe" food, and suddenly that food is unsafe.  That is not a risk that I'm willing to take with my guests. 

I totally don't get the part about people suffering because a food isn't there.  It's just food.  There will be other food there.  What's to suffer from?


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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:08pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
I never said tree nuts were more important to a kid's life but how does your inlaws react to this? Do they offer to make something else or have they ever changed their entire meal to accommodate your daughter?

Why does her inlaws reaction matter?  You are talking about your actions and what you would or wouldn't do for a guest in your home who had an allergy.  You said you would not do that.  Can you explain why?  (For example, do you not believe the allergy is that severe.  Are you more concerned with other guests and what they might think of you if you cave in to other's food issues?  Umm, you just really "love me" some nuts so much that you couldn't omit it from a meal served to someone in your family or friends that you care about?) I can't think of any others, but can you explain why you would not?  

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:10pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
DS went through a period of food aversion, b/w the ages of 4 and 5 and just last year.  He'd throw up in the morning a lot and mid-afternoon - often after lunch.  I kept a diary of it and tried to follow it back to his diet but doctors are very careful NOT to call reactions to food allergies unless you're willing to go through a huge battery of tests, The doctor also threw out possible celiac disease or early krohns and a friend of mine had to scare me with this horror story about a kid at her childrens' school who dropped dead on the football field that had a history of chrons, Nice, Sigh!  DS is 10 now and he's still a picky eater but he's safe and thank God his aversions aren't deadly. </p>

I'm sure that's a very unpleasant experience.  For your child.  But unless he's been intubated in order to keep his airways clear until the epinephrine takes effect to stop the allergic response in anaphylactic shock, it's not really comparable.

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