Mundane Monday

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Mundane Monday
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 9:22am

Welcome to a new week :)

1. Has spring "sprung" by you yet?

2. What are you wearing today?

3. Do you make a special menu for Easter (if you celebrate it)? 

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:11pm
Sorry to hear that Littlemiss but what happens when her dd gets older and goes to friends homes and other places that might have these things? Should she expect everywhere she goes to accommodate her allergies? What happens when she gets a last minute invite to a friends for dinner and they already cooked with things she can't eat? Do you expect them to throw away the food and re-make it with items that she can eat?
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:11pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Have you had her tested Regina for everything?
cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Have you had her tested Regina for everything?

How do you think we found out about her allergies? ESP? Spidey sense? Of course we had her tested. For some reason, latex is not one of the things they test for. Her first dentist trip (initial exposure) was uneventful. Second trip (reaction) almost killed her. Now her dentist uses latex-free gloves on her. 

She is under the care of a fabulous allergist. Who, when told the story of our Thanksgiving dinner w/nuts, actually commended me for my reaction to the tree nut salad. I quote, "I really wish I had more parents like you. Are you available to give lessons on advocacy?"

I'm not ever going to apologize for doing whatever it takes to keep my kid safe. And if that's seen as rude or bitchy, so be it. I'd rather be a bitch with a healthy kid than a "nice person" with a dead one.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:12pm

This all would fall under family gossip and drama wouldn't it, cchick? Lol!  My sister has taken over as matriarch in the family and her spreads are huge, mostly italian!  But when she invites all of us + her husband's side there's always someone that complains about the food or the lack of room or something..... Don't come, Bring your own food then, I mean gee, BAER! 

 


 


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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:13pm
Some things are just "holiday" foods that people look forward to all year long. You are not familiar Lauren with big family holiday gatherings, correct? Say 20-50 people?
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:13pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Littlemiss I am going by the perspective of someone cooking for many people at a holiday dinner. Just like if you don't like chicken and there are 20 other people there that will eat chicken, do you want the host to make you a separate meal because you don't like it? I know she said she brings something different for her that she can eat. I suggested to see if there recipes that the host does not eliminate tree nuts from that her dd could feel like she was eating the same thing as the others so she doesn't feel left out. I would never expect someone who was cooking for a crowd to cater to me or my child's allergies.

Accommodating a life threatening allergy that requires an epipen to counter is a vastly differently thing than simply catering to someone who doesn't prefer you main choice of a protein. 

I feel very sorry for anyone who thinks that a hostess is being imposed upon by a request that she not serve foods that could kill someone at her table.  Or more accurately, I feel sorry for anyone at her table.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:13pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
No, I personally would probably ask the parent if I should make a separate dish similar to what everyone else was eating (if they did not insist on doing it first) but I would not eliminate things from everyone's dish to accommodate one person.

How then, would you feel if a kid died because of your refusal to accomodate them? Cross contamination happens. And it can be deadly.

How would you feel knowing that your inflexibility killed a kid, Hazel? Wow--that's really something to be proud of...<snort>

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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Registered: 03-22-2013
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:15pm

bordwithyou wrote:
There's a big difference between not liking a food and potentially dying if you eat it. I absolutely do accommodate my guests' deadly allergies. Having somebody die in the middle of the meal would spoil it for everyone, don't you think?

I'm rapidly coming to the conclusion that for some people on this board, if someone died in the middle of the meal because the hostess served a life threatening ingredient for that guest,they would be outraged by the bad manners of the deceased for casting a pall upon the occasion.

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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:16pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
Have you had her tested Regina for everything?

Why does that matter to you?  Do you think Regina hasn't done something medicall she should have?

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:16pm
No, you are doing the right thing to keep her safe but everywhere in life she will not be accommodated, you realize that, right? The best thing to do is avoid these things as much as you can and stay safe. That's all. If you are that close to your inlaws, why wouldn't they remember something like that?
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Mon, 03-25-2013 - 2:17pm

cruisingchick20111 wrote:
I never said tree nuts were more important to a kid's life but how does your inlaws react to this? Do they offer to make something else or have they ever changed their entire meal to accommodate your daughter?

Generally speaking, they don't make stuff w/tree nuts. It isn't rocket science. It is quite easy to put out a holiday spread w/o them. I've hosted plenty of parties/holidays/etc since her diagnosis--all tree nut free. Last Thanksgiving SIL "forgot." Pretty sure no one will forget again.

On Wednesdays we wear pink.

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