My feel good thread....

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My feel good thread....
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Sat, 01-10-2004 - 8:28pm

Since our board has once again been accused of being mean (sigh), I thought I would start this thread. What random acts of kindness have people done for you?


Today, I had Zak's long delayed birthday party at a new kids art gallery in town. The woman that runs it does not know me and we have never talked about anything other than the party. She called last night and I told her about Devin dying and it had no bearing on the party but I just wanted her to know. She told me she would make this his best birthday ever.


The party is 300.00 which, to me, is pretty exgravant but she provides everything.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Sat, 01-10-2004 - 9:01pm

People can be wonderful. . .can't they. . . and whether you know it or not, bringing your family some measure of joy and normalcy was probably worth much more to her than any money she 'lost'. . .


Happy belated birthday to your little guy!


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Sat, 01-10-2004 - 9:09pm

Now for my feel good message. . .


I got an email from my dh today. . .he sounds so good despite the news that his stay overseas has been 'extended'.

Virgo
 
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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 8:18am

I have been hit and miss on this board, but I am so GLAD that your dh is ok.

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 8:24am

that is

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 3:46pm
oh my gosh, kristi!!! what a beautiful person she must be to have such compassion for a total stranger. I know many people dont believe in God, but I do, and I really feel sometimes we cross paths with certain people for a reason. your life has been so focused on devin(and rightfully so)for so long, there needed something to "pull" you back out into the world around you. i may be completely off base, but this is how i *like* to think anyway.

just this past friday a friend and i went out to lunch and the doors of the restaurant were locked. we could see the wait staff was having a meeting and did not notice the time. we knocked on the door to no avail,and turned to walk away and make other plans. with that, the manager came out and apologized he did not realize the time nor that we were "standing out in the cold", and informed us our lunch would be "on him". how nice we thought that was, as we were not really very upset. because we didnt have to pay for lunch, we were on our way back to work, when we realized we forgot to leave a tip!!! we were so embarrassed. i called to let them know we would drop it off, and my friend did on the way home from work. so i think one act of kindness deserves another, or as my mother often says, "pay it forward", and i really love this "version".

Another one lately was when lauren and i opened our earrings from my parents for christmas, i loved mine of course, as i am allergic to many metals, and my mom usually gives us a pair of gold earrings for christmas. i looked at lauren's and just thought they were the coolest earrings ever. my mom was surprised i liked them so much, and said, well, maybe there will be an "epiphany gift" coming to you. LOL. i got my earrings just like lauren's in the mail the other day. Now i know this is my mom, and people think no biggy, right. wrong. not all moms are like this, and i am very thankful for the loving, thoughtful mom i have. and of course dad would never disapprove, and together they are a happy "old" couple still in love.

When my uncle died in november, it took me completely by surprise and i told my boss i had to go home to tell my mom in person, as my parents were here for thanksgiving. i actually went back to work after i saw my mom would be ok, and my team leader told me, she would just take care of my time. i was not charged with any pto. i thought that was very kind of her.

i think in general other people are kind, and we all do small things for each other all day long, ie: hold the elevator for someone, clear the path for someone to go by, hold the door, etc, and i hope others appreciate these small gestures throughout their day as i do. i truly think this helps make the world go round.

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 3:50pm

I agree with you that, in general, people are truly kind. I have thought about getting the lady a gift certificate as thank you but I decided that would lessen her gift to me. I have sent her a thank you note and plan to publicize her place as much as possible. I haven't really told anyone what she did because it is so special to me.


Hopefully, one day I can do something similar as a gift to a family in need of a little sunshine and hope.

"I can be changed by what happens to me but I refuse to be reduced by it"

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 4:33pm
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She would probably pleased to know you did go forward and help someone else with the same kindness in mind.

at work a few weeks ago one of the girls came over to my cube with a dollar in her hand. i said, "what is this for?". she said, "to help replace the forks you share". well, you know how in the office people are always looking for plastic ware for parties, and snacks brought in now and then. i was in sams one day and just decided to add one of those economy boxes of plastic forks to my cart to bring to work, and share whenever needed. nobody takes advantage of it at all, and i dont mind sharing. i told this girl who offered me the dollar to keep it, and when her kids are all older like mine, and she has an extra $5-$10, she can buy the forks for her team wherever that might be. she has three kids ages 11,9 & 7, and she and her dh are dancing as fast as they can to support/raise their children the best they can, so i did not want to take her money. Knowing "audrey" she will do this, so i did not do this in vain.

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 5:07pm
What a lovely story. I'm glad Zak had a great party.

Last week, DH parked in a spot for the wrong doctor's office when he went for an appt. at a medical building. So he got a big sticker put on the driver's side window. I don't even think he noticed it. The next day, I drove the car to a client meeting, and stopped at the parking lot attendant to get a pass. The attendant came out with her scraper and scraped the sticker off, even though it had nothing to do with her or her parking lot. It took her about five full minutes, in the cold, but she insisted, and got the job done. It was so sweet.

My parents have positively astounded me with their kindness over the past year. If I had known they were going to be this nice, I wouldn't have been so mean to them when I was a teenager, LOL. I can't beging to list all the sweet, thoughtful, generous things they've done.

2003 was not a great year for me, but one lesson I learned is how kind people can be -- from the medical resident who took it upon himself to research DH's condition and talked on the phone with me about it at 4:00 a.m., to nurses who held my hand, to friends who made meals for us, to the one friend who made me an amazing care package for my weekend at my parents, which included everything from snacks to car toys for the kids to bottled water and a book on coping, to DS1's teacher, who called every day to let me know how he was behaving and handling things, to extended family members who wrote cards and enrolled us in various prayer circles (we're not religious, but I think it's a lovely thing to do). It was just amazing.





Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 7:31pm
Oh, that's just so nice (and nice is such a milquetoast term for what she did for you).

I don't know that the kindnesses I've received these past couple of weeks have been so random, but they've been much appreciated nonetheless. My car died on Jan 2. Terminally (maybe, but definitely in grave condition). My ex and his wife have given me their third car to use while their personal mechanic (friend of the family who does car work for them) looks at my car to determine if it's worth fixing or could get by with a rebuilt engine replacing the one that's there. And if not, he's got a car he's been "tinkering with" he'll sell me for under $2K (inspected). Considering after I'd taken my car to the shop and they were talking "thousands and thousands of dollars" to either fix it or looking at having to spend in the neighborhood of $10K to replace the car, this has been an incredible act of kindness from all concerned.

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 1:41pm

What a special person she must be, I hope you keep in touch with her, I have a feeling she'd be a great friend.

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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