Need help with my oldest daughter

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Need help with my oldest daughter
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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 8:33pm

Ok guys.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 9:47pm

How old is Elizabeth? She might just be going through an angry stage if that makes any sense.


When Devin, my husband, died in December, Zak was really angry. He asked me why I married him anyway. After much discussion, I understood his line of thinking...he thought if I had married someone else he would still have

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 10:25pm

Lizzie is almost 6.

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Mon, 06-07-2004 - 10:46pm
This is *exactly* what came into my mind first! <<>> it is ok for her to be angry, but mom should just listen and show her understanding. i dont think it is anyone's responsibility to "fix it", as it is probably a normal behavior in these circumstances.
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:25am
My kids didn't like the move they made when they were 3 and 5.5. I think thats normal. And I don't think you need to cater too much to her *anger*. I would give her one more good concise explanation of WHY you moved and WHY Dad is away. Something to the point like..."We moved so we wouldn't have to live in our car until another house was available. Dad is away earning money so we can pay for our house, food, car, clothes and your toys. Now, do you want to live be liviing in the car with no money for food? No. Good - didn't think so."

Sometimes if you start catering too much to these reactions, you give the child the idea that something IS wrong and they DO have something to worry about. They need to be told fairly directly that nothing IS wrong. At 6 they are also starting to view a world outside the family and comparing their own situation. The rich kid in the mansion is as likely be wondering why he doesn't get to have a barn full of animals as the poor farmers kid is to wonder why he doesn't have a dirt bike. You don't want to cater to that mindset either.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 8:36am

I agree with Kristi.

Virgo
 
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 10:26am

Thanks everyone.

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:16pm

My oldest could get very angry at times...what worked for him

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 2:41pm

OH another good Idea.

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