To offend or not to offend

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To offend or not to offend
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 12:08am

That seems to be a question among some folks here. Continue the discussion here if you desire to continue at all.

ETA: For those who don't know, I'm diverting an off-topic discussion from the "WOES" thread down here so that it stops disrupting the actual debate going on. I am not part of said discussion on offensiveness.




Edited 4/5/2009 10:20 am ET by finally.me




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Registered: 03-06-2009
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 7:18am

here's what i find offensive -- poverty, intolerance, ibigotry,ignorance, hatred,

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 7:25am
Right.
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Registered: 03-31-2009
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 7:28am

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People have been telling me to STOP telling others how and what to post and lookee here -- this is about as much a command as I've ever seen.


Let me explain this to you -- it's not about innocent offenses.

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Registered: 03-06-2009
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 7:31am

hey those are my biggies -- I dont' get offended by alot that happens on this message board unless it's one of th eopenly homophobic slurs (which falls under my intolerance category)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:25am
Sometimes an opening post is so offensive that it offends nearly every poster on the board, including ones who had been in heated disagreement in other threads. This means that many posters will type a reply that expresses their revulsion at the ideas in the post. This reply may be sarcastic, horrified, angry or cooly logical. But it is likely to be echoed in sentiment by many others on the board each in their own posting style. This is not evidence of a clique. This is evidence that some ideas are so offensive that they outrage the majority and so the majority expresses this outrage to the OP. An OP who honestly thinks and states that WOHMS ought to have put their children up for adoption or that they are inherently bad mothers is unlikely to find a welcoming atmosphere here. And this board includes a SAHMs who also shared in the revulsion to that and similar sentiments. We'll go back to more even-handed disagreement in some upcoming thread that expresses a sentiment that is less revolting and therefore less likely to bring about uniformly revolted response posts.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:34am
I think it would be literally impossible to have a debate board if it were against TOS to offend anybody. I think the only posts that have literally crossed a line are not the offensive ones (and boy did Woes of a Working Mother offend me), but rather the ones that compromised anonymity by posting personal info. Lots of people have been posting here for quite awhile and may have let a tidbit or two slip unwisely that indiviadually mean nothing but could pinpoint location if all linked together. So when somebody lets something slip that could give location, I think it's best to let that tidbit sink down into the archives and NEVER be regurgitated because this is a public board and we all need anonymity. So even though I posted angry responses in "that" thread, I actually don't have a problem with it but really only have a problem with the far more troublesome (but blessedly infrequent) re-posting of posts that unwisely gave out locative info and should have been left alone.
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:37am

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Oh, I agree with you on that.

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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:49am
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Sun, 04-05-2009 - 8:59am

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That's fair.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sun, 04-05-2009 - 9:21am

That's not proof, but it made me raise an eyebrow.

Well, gracious! I hope you're okay.

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