Parenting brags....

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Parenting brags....
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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 3:31pm

What is one thing that you think has gone right for your kids, due to a parenting *value* (for the lack of a better word) that you implement?


What is one thing that has gone right for your kids, despite a parenting blunder?


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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 3:45pm

What is one thing that you think has gone right for your kids, due to a parenting *value* (for the lack of a better word) that you implement?


I think the fact that we have tried to instill values, versus just having arbitrary rules, helps our kids to make wise choices.

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Ducky

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 3:57pm

I would not consider not spending a lot of time at school a "blunder" at all. The idea that parents have to go to every game and put in an appearance at school assemblies, etc., is really hogwash to me. I don't think this is what makes a good parent at all.


Your kids are probably doing well in school because of, not in spite of, the fact that you don't volunteer a lot at their school. They own their educations, IOW.


I really hate all the pressure our society puts on us to be so involved in our kids' lives that we forget where we end and they begin.

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:16pm
I am way too superstitious to tell you what I am doing right, because the minute I brag about my kids, one of them turns around and does something incredibly, incredibly stupid. I will let you know in ten years, lol.
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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:18pm

What is one thing that you think has gone right for your kids, due to a parenting *value* (for the lack of a better word) that you implement?

My DDs all seem very accepting of the differences in people.

What is one thing that has gone right for your kids, despite a parenting blunder?

The reason I know that God has a sense of humor is because he gave me three DDS. They all have grown up to be fairly feminine despite having a mother who knows absolutely nothing about anything girlie (make-up, hair, etc).

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:24pm

I totally agree with you.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:26pm

LOL LOL LOL! Happens here, too. I remember bragging once about how proud I was that my kids got along so well, and not 10 seconds later, they both came up asking me to settle the stupidest argument you could possibly imagine.


And when they were younger, my friends jokingly called my kids the "Stepford kids" because they were freakishly well-behaved, but last year, my son was so oppressed by our strict standards that he was diagnosed with anxiety disorder.


And yes, we've lightened up a lot. Parenting is really humbling.

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:31pm
Yeah well, I'm playing with fire, lol.

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Ducky

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:33pm

Oh my goodness.

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:34pm
Seriously. I mean, one time I bragged, on this very board, that whatever else my kids had done, they had never every thrown a fit in a grocery store. They were about four and eight so I thought I was safe. The very next Saturday morning one of them was flopping around the grocery store floor like a fish out of water because I wouldn't buy him something. It was surreal. I learned my lesson.
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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 4:36pm
when they were younger, my friends jokingly called my kids the "Stepford kids" because they were freakishly well-behaved, but last year, my son was so oppressed by our strict standards that he was diagnosed with anxiety disorder.

We had a similar situation with our oldest ds.

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