Parenting Poll (m)

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Parenting Poll (m)
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 3:57pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?


There is no "overall point" to this, I'm just curious.

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 4:04pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

At 4 months she started the cereal baby food stuff (she was a hungry one and I needed to supplement the bottles I was pumping for her)...by 8 months she had REFUSED babyfood and was eating rice, beans, spaghetti, all types of adult food. By 13 months she self-weaned and she was on whole milk and ate same stuff we eat except for seafood and peanut butter (even hot & spicy foods which she now enjoys)

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

NOPE!

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

I haven't yet. The opportunity hasn't presented itself and I'm not particularly eager to (she's 22 months old BTW)

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

N/A

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

No idea!! Definitely NOT in the near future. She's a crazy toddler. LOL

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Well........we cosleep and she sleeps through the night. She never "made it" past 3 am in a crib by herself. But as early as 4 months she could easily sleep the whole night as long as she could "sense" there was someone else in the room.

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 4:09pm
. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids? 4 months; 6-7 months (no seafood or chocolate, no "junk food")

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

Not really, although I do consider myself a general follower of "sleep training," although not CIO

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

My first trip away from my firstborn occurred when he was 5 months old. It was only 2 nights, but I was cross country and a nervous wreck! DH and I have had two nights away from the boys (two different Saturday nights), as well as about 10-14 days of business trips per year each.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Not yet, but I'm thinking they will each get a couple of dollars a week, starting maybe in K or first grade? Hoping to get some insight here.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

This didn't happen until my older one turned 3, and the baby's nowhere near ready for unsupervised play at only 19 months.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Peter = 6 months; Joey = 15 months (but he still talks a lot, darn it, and wakes us up!)

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 5:00pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

Zak-4 months

Alex-10 months

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

No-it has been instinct and hysterical calls to my parents, aunts or friends

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Zak-when he was 4 and DH was in hospital for his brain surgery. I still feel some residual guilt because some nights I only vaguely knew which family he was with. I knew my mother and church friends had him and were watching him and I needed to concentrate on DH. The hospital was such a nightmare and it was such an emotional time.

Alex stayed with my mother for our 5th anniversary and he was 15 months old

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Zak (6) gets $2.00 a week for cleaning his room, putting dishes in the dishwasher and picking up his toys. Some weeks he gets it, some weeks he doesn't. We listen to Dave Ramsey in the car and Zak decided to make envelopes for his money like Dave Ramsey suggests. We have one envelope for spending, one for tithing and one for savings. So far, it has really worked. I also pay him for picking up weeds in the yard or for feeding the dogs.

Alex (19 months) does not get an allowance


5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Zak plays outside alone BUT I know all the neighbors and we live on a dead end street. Last summer, he came in to report a suspicous car to me. He said it had been parked there for awhile and the driver was staring at him. I went out and the driver said he was waiting for the teenager next door and that he had 4 children too many! I was so proud of him. I have really worked with him about strangers and, that if he gets lost, to go to a lady with children. I have told him if someone asks him to look for a puppy or offers candy-he must come to me. I am glad some of it got through.

Alex is not allowed anywhere by himself. As most toddlers, he has the sense of a headless chicken. He is going to give me gray hair by the time I am 30. He has no fear and no need to stay close to me. I always say the Alex will be the astronaut and Zak the NASA engineer

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Zak-about 2

Alex-still wishing and hoping

I had no idea I was going to be so chatty. Sorry.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 5:27pm
Lets see. Ds started on rice cereal at about 5mo I think and ate most solids by 11 or 12 mo.

I practice some modes of attachment parenting-we co sleep, didnt do a sling but did do a baby bjorn, worked around ds' schedule for the most part rather than trying to make him conform to us (ie;feeding on demand and such), and no crying it out ever.

Overnight. My mom stayed with dd and ds for one long weekend when dh and I went to Seattle. Ds was about a year, dd 9yo. Then a couple years ago when dh's father passed away, my dad stayed with the kids while we went down for the funeral, ds was 2, almost 3.

Dd is 12 and has been getting an allowance for a couple years. She gets to keep 2/3 and put 1/3 into savings. Right now we only give her $3 a week, but she can also do work for more $$ when she feels the motivation (the motivation of wanting something, lol). I do plan to increase her allowance this fall, but only if I deem her mature enough to do a few more chores around the house and such. Allowance isnt directly tied to chores, but I do feel that a higher contribution around the house can and should mean a bit more allowance (kind of like a raise for a good employee!).

My ds is 4yo and has for a long time played out in the living room or on the deck while I am in the bedroom playing on the computer! I'd say since he was 2 or even a bit younger. BUT....he is one of those kids who NEVER gets into stuff that he shouldnt-it would just never occur to him to draw on the wallls or flush wierd things down the toilet, lol. And I am always close enough for him to call me if he needs me. I dont let him play alone in the yard right now, because the yard is on the side of our house and no windows face it, so I cannot see him. But when we move, we'll have a huge backyard right off the kitchen, and I know I'll be totally comfortable letting him play there.

Ds has never been a real regular sleeper. I think he slept through the night pretty regularly by about 1yo-15mo. Somewhere in that ball park. He sleeps in a toddler bed in our room, and probably wakes a couple times a week to crawl in bed with us. Dd has always been a great sleeper, only wakes if she has a bad dream or is sick.

:o)

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Dj

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 6:02pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

DS tried solid foods at about 4 months. (grabbed a cookie out of dh's hand and ate it) He ate most solid foods by 7 months, but I B/F until he was 1yo. We never did baby food nor did we do a bottle. Straight from boob to cup and plate!

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

Nope.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Welll... we left him with my in laws on new years eve (He was about 2 yrs, 8 months) but not overnight on purpose.. we were out until about 5am. I don't think we'd leave him any longer than that yet. Don't know when.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Nope.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

He plays in his room by himself now. I check on him every 15 minutes or so.. or if it gets really quiet ;) Never thought about what age though.. wasn't a conscious thing I guess.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

1 year old.

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 8:13pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

DD1 6 months, DD2 about 5 months, DD3 about 4.5 months to start. Took about a month to get them eating most solids.


2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

When my kids were infants I had never heard of any formal names for parenting.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

We left DD's 1 and 2 with Grandparents at 6 & 4 when we had to go to an out of town hospital for tests with my third pregnancy. For a pleasure they were (I think 11, 9 and 5).

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

DDs 2 and three get an allowance. Began at 5 years old, for the older two it was a quarter, I think maybe $.50 for DD3.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Three

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

4-months.

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 10:52pm
Hmmmm...let's see how good my memory is! lol

1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

ewww...you know, I'm not really sure. I know they were on cereal very early on...like at one month or so. Of coarse, it was very diluted, but they had to have it or they were STARVING! They started #1 baby foods around 4 or 5 months I would say, and solids...well, probably around 9 months. They were both totally on solids by 1 year, earlier I'm sure, but I don't know when. lol...once son touched real food, he wouldn't ever touch baby foods again! I will admit to one thing that we did that most people feel is a no-no. We put both kids on whole milk (yes, cows milk) by 6 months. I couldn't ever breastfeed either of my kids (never got any milk in), and they had problems with every kind of formula you could find. They both did the best with Carnation, but still did better with whole milk. go figure.

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

We just kinda go with the flow. I really feel that every child is different, just as every family is different. So different things work with different kids. A lot of the time, I even do things differently between my two kids, just because something might work with one that doesn't with the other.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

you mean leave them home alone? Or leave them with someone else overnight? I left my daughter with my cousin overnight when she was just 3 weeks old. I came down with a HORRIBLE case of the flu. DH was out of state working, and he couldn't get back. I could barely even hold my own head up, much less take care of an infant. I kept getting dizzy, and was terrified I would drop her. My cousin came and got her for the night until my husband could get back home. With DS...well....unfortunately, he spent more time away from us that first year than I would ever recommend. With DHs illness, he had 2 surgeries (both out of state, and one major, where he almost died), plus another 2 hospitalizations (both out of state) between sons birth and the day he turned 1. I only took the kids with me on one of those trips, and that was an emergency, throw the kids and grandma in the van, and RUN to San Antonio to meet the medivac that delivered DH there on an emergency basis. I still hate the fact that he was away from me so much that first year.

As for leaving them home alone? Ummmmm...when they are 30? lol...I don't know, I'll let you know when I get there. But as it stands now, if they are under 18, they don't spend the night in my home without an adult present.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Yes, my children get an allowance. They get $3 per week, and I think it is about to go up to $5 now that they are getting older. They do have the opportunity to earn money as well by doing certain things around the house.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

ummm...I let my kids play in their rooms alone by age 1. I actually encouraged it to some degree. I let them play in the yard for short periods unsupervised now, but always when I have the windows open, and can hear/see them as we don't have a fenced yard. If we did, they could play until their hearts content alone out there.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Both of mine were good sleepers from the beginning, getting up just once a night, usually. But they were both sleeping through the night regularly by 2 months.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 10:53am
1) Solid foods? I started them experimenting with solid foods around 4-6 months. By the time they were a year old, they were pretty much eating table food.

2) I didn't know it had a name when my older one was a baby, but I pretty much practiced attachment parenting. By the time #2 came along, I'd read all the theories, etc, and was evem more persuaded of the value of AP, but the little bugger hadn't read the books and thrived better sleeping alone and with a more rigid routine than I ever would have imposed on him myself. Still, I think AP is, at bottom, about knowing your child and being willing to adapt your parenting to his/her needs, so I consider myself sort of AP-oriented...or, as a friend has titled our style of parenting, "EP"-- "eclectic parenting" -- we adapt what seems to be the most applicable from a variety of experts and sort of make it all up as we go along.

3) DH had to make a couple of business trips when the kids were infants. I never felt comfortable leaving them overnight until they were about 3 and could understand the concept of being away and coming back.

4) Yes, my kids do get an allowance. I honestly can't remember how old they were when we started. Now they get 5 dollars a week for basic allowance and they have the opportunity to earn more by doing special jobs. I also put their stuff in time out when they leave it lying about and they have to do extra chores to buy back their stuff.

5) My kids are 7 and 11, and yes, they do play alone quite nicely. When did it start? Clueless!

6) My older one never really slept through the night until he was weaned at just over three. My little one, much to my surprise, began sleeping through the night regularly at about 15 weeks old!

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 12:29pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

Typical schedule here, started with baby cereal and diluted juice at four months; mostly solid meals by 11-13 months.


2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

Nothing formal - We used cribs, and yes, with dd we used CIO!


3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Dd was just a few months old, left with my parents as dh and I had to travel out of state for visitation of my stepchildren.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Not yet

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Outside is a toughie for me right now.

We live on a corner, with little/no traffic. The speed limit is supposed to 10-15 mph, but the few cars that we do get go a whole lot faster and normally blow off the stop sign. There are about 30 homes behind us, I swear, half of them have teenage drivers. A lot of the older kids play in the road - ride bikes, rollerskate, play ball, etc. - but at 3.5 and 4.5 I am not confident enough that they will always be watching for cars. So far this summer, I have watched both of my kids run after a ball and stop dead in their tracks at the sidewalk all on their own. This makes me confident enough to run inside for 2 minutes to grab drinks or something, but I am not ready to just let them go out and play for long periods of time without being outside myself. We have never allowed their bikes in the road - but I do allow them to go about 150 feet on the sidewalk behind our house. I pretty much want them close enough to the yard that I can run to them in a reasonable amount of time... and never out of sight.

I don't know if I am overprotective or normal, lol

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Dd - 4 months

Ds - 6 weeks

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 1:38pm
Hey .. i'll join in ...

1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

Savannah - started at about 5 months ... on mainly table foods at a year or so.

Callahan - started at about 5 monhts ... on mainly table foods at 10 months or so

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

Nope. I really don't have much faith in all that mumbo jumbo. You do what's right for you and your children, regardless of what its called or who else does it or how many books have been written on it.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Savannah was 2 when I left her overnight for the first time. Adn she was home with dh then. (he left her overnight much earlier, as he traveled). the first time she was overnight without one of us was when she was 3.

Ds has never been left overnight without dh or I.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Savannah gets $1 a week, as long as she keeps her room reasonabley clean. This started at age 5 for her (she's almost 7 now)

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Savannah - Inside, probably a year or so. Outside? just recently and she's almost 7.

Callahan - inside probbably 18 months or so. Outside? just recently adn he's always with Savannah.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Savannah slept 5 hours the night we brougth her home from teh hospital. Has always slept fairly uninterrupted at night.

Callahan was almost 2 before I got 2 ngihts in a row of uninterrupted sleep. And that was rare even then. This year, we started him on Zyrtec at age 2.5, and he rarely wakes up now.

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