Parenting Poll (m)

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Parenting Poll (m)
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 3:57pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?


There is no "overall point" to this, I'm just curious.

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 4:49pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

6 months -- cereal. 12 months -- all solids (no more baby food).

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

No. Just did what made sense. Didn't know it was AP until after.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Haven't yet.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

No.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Room -- he started doing this when we bought this house because it's a one-story. He can play in the backyard unsupervised.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

Bwhahahahhahahahhahahaha.

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 5:24pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

Cereal - 4 months, didn't start actually eating much until 5 months, when I started veggies and fruits. She is 7 months and eats most of the single ingredient varieties - except for the ones she hates, like peaches.

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

Nope. Not into "official" parenting philosophies. I believe each child is an individual and should be treated as such. They don't all fit into the same neat little categories.

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

Not yet - she's 7 months old now.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

Not at 7 months old! She will, but only for chores. Nice to develop a work ethic and the sense of the value of a dollar.

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

Don't know yet. Each child is different, so I couldn't guess.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?

At 2 months old she slept 8 hours, at 4 months she slept 12 hours. At 7 months, she's suddenly back to waking up - I was happy to get 6 hours last night. Go figure ;-) I'm hoping it's teeth.

-Deb

 

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 8:25pm
what is attachment parenting?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:11am
1. A very few things at maybe 8 or 9 months. At a year they ate many solid foods.

2. Holy Bible

3. They stayed over night with my parents when they were 2. No one else until they went to school. I am still very particular who they stay with.

4. Don't believe in allowance. They live in my home and eat the food I pay for. On rare occassions they get paid for extra big work like hauling rocks ect. Something beyond normal home chores.

5. Inside the house they had a gated playroom. Outside I was scared they'd fall in the pool. So they were 6 or 7.

6. Sleep all night I think by 3 or 4 months but sometimes they would get out of wack.

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 9:00am
I don't want to say anything incorrectly, so I'll just say check out the Attachment Parenting board here at PS. I believe the specific "philosophy," which as I've seen involves baby wearing, co-sleeping, extended nursing, no crying it out and generally being quite child-centered/focused, is that your child bonds to you from your constant physical presence. Some people include having a SAHP as part of attachment parenting. I'd never heard of it either until I became a parent the first time.

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:36am
Extended nursing.. ughh... once ds had teeth on the top and bottom, I said NO MORE! LOL
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:50am
I have a question about "not believing in allowance." How do you teach your kids how to handle money without practice? I don't believe in tying routine chores to allowance either, and like you, I only pay the kids for extra work I need done (or sometimes I "make work" when one of them is feeling motivated for some extra cash). But I do think it's important for kids to learn to handle money from an early age, so I give them allowance and expect them to pay for some of their day-to-day "needs" out of their allowance (like if they are invited to a birthday party and want to go, I make them "help buy" the present with one dollar. The present costs more than that of course, but I want them to understand early on that it costs SOMETHING, and if you haven't saved a dollar for the present, you can't go to the party.
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 11:59am
I'll try to take this one since I believe I am the only one in the thread who copped to using the philosophy....Attachment Parenting is a term coined by pediatrician Dr William Sears and his RN wife Martha, who are the parents of eight kids themselves. Sears said that when he went into pediatrics, he was well-trained to deal with sick kids but not as well-trained to deal with the concerns of most parents, which had to do more with behavioral issues and practical questions like "How do you get them to sleep through the night," rather than how to keep them healthy or treat their illnesses. So he began watching parents in his practice that he considered to be "good parents" with happy, well-behaved kids, and even paying more attention to his own wife (by then they had three sons) and found that although specific practices varied from family to family, the most signicant thing they had in common was that "good" families had a strong bond of attachment and that the parents were able to deaw on that attachment to teach and guide their children into desired behaviors as they grew older.

As he then studied attachment theory, he came up with the famous (or infamous) practices that he thinks help foster healthy bonds. And although he stresses that these practices are only TOOLS that most often help (but sometimes don't), I think a lot of people who say that they're "AP" have only read the list of tools, not the entire books! His "tools" for promoting bonding include baby wearing, co-sleeping, extended nursing, minimal mother-baby separation during the first year of life, etc. He says openly not every "tool" is right for every family, and that some of their own kids have slept better in cribs, for instance. At bottom, he says that attachment parenting should involve parents and children KNOWING each other intimately, and parents not being afraid to respond to the needs of their young babies. The best description I ever heard of AP is "the Golden Rule applied to children."

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:05pm
OK, but I don't get then how that's different than good, child centered parenting in general? Doesn't every parent strive to know their child intimately, and to respond? Or is it what the response is, and how quickly the response comes? I guess what I'm asking is what's a non-AP parenting practice?

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:08pm
Me too! Zak nursed for 7 months until he bit me and Alex nursed for 10 months until he bit me! I admire people who can extend nursing until a year or more. I just could not handle being bitten.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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