Parenting Poll (m)

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Parenting Poll (m)
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 3:57pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids?

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name?

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight?

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much?

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised?

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly?


There is no "overall point" to this, I'm just curious.

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:14pm
Well, I would tend to agree with you that AP is mostly just common-sense parenting. A non-AP practice might be someone who believes that a very young child (I'm thinking under about four months old here) is "just crying to manipulate the parents into picking her up" and so refuses to respond to a lonely cry. Or maybe someone who believes that babies need to be on a strict feeding schedule so they refuse to feed a baby because "it isn't time." Or a parent who refused to take into account that some children can be very shy and some very outgoing, and expected the same behavior toward other people from both kids....or a parent who pushed children into activities that the child isn't ready for or had no interest in because "all kids should play on a team" or whatever.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:15pm
I think both of my boys bit me a couple of times but neither liked the really startled negatice reactions when they did it, so they got over the biting stage quickly. It never lasted more than a few days.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:19pm
My ds was an aggressive nurser, so when he had teeth it was unbearable. I dealt with it when he only had his bottom teeth.. but when the top ones came in... ughh... after the 4th time wedging his mouth open with my finger to get unclamped, I quit nursing cold turkey, and he was happy to be eating grown up food at the table with the rest of us anyways.
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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 05-21-2003 - 8:48pm
#1 Started trying solids slowly (very slowly) at 6 months (I chose to formula feed) I'd say it was a first birthday or after before started eating a lot of solids both baby food and soft table foods. I used formula until 14mo as I felt it was a superior choice over changing to whole milk, jmho.

#2 No formal name parenting philosophy. Just our own. We co-sleep because it works best for our family and did it for 5 years, still do on wknds/holidays (my oldest is 7). I don't like the crying it out. I believe in all vax. I chose to formula feed but it was an educated decision. I'm anal about car seats/booster seats until 9. I believe in parenting your way and not taking guilt trips or criticism from those who do different.

#3 We left our child about 2 w/my parents (we have never hired a sitter, never used childcare providers). But we knew he was ready so we were comfortable with the decision. However, I can probably count on my hands how many times he has went to the grandparents over night. We don't like our children away from us, we usually end up talking about him and pacing the floor missing him. We take our little one everywhere with us. But I think this is a personal philosophy, not a book or other parents dictated one.

#4 Yes, we give an allowance. We've started with $2 about a month or little more ago. He has to keep his room clean and his toys picked up elsewhere in the house. I'll give him more for extra things, especially when he does it w/out being asked, I love those!

#5 Yard has to be supervised and back yard only still today (he is 7). In his room, hmmm, he has always been responsible so I'd say around 2ish.

#6 Our first slept thru the night fairly quickly, I'd say within the first month-6wks. Wondering what this new baby will be like.





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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 9:29pm
<<<< he says that attachment parenting should involve parents and children KNOWING each other intimately, and parents not being afraid to respond to the needs of their young babies. The best description I ever heard of AP is "the Golden Rule applied to children.">>>>

this describes exactly how i cared for my babies, so i guess i was an attachment parent, however, when i first read the description, i felt like that kind of parenting would be overwhelming to me. i nursed each of my babies for two months because i simply didnt produce much milk, however, i was/am very intimately connected to my children, and am able to read them better than they can read themselves.

its kind of funny to me, there is a name for this kind of parenting. i thought i was just being a great mom!! LOL

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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 9:33pm
you know, that is pretty much how we turned into co-sleepers. i felt like if the kids were lonely, sad, scared, etc., and needed to be close to dh and me, even though it was the middle of the night, or perhaps because it was the middle of the night, i would not make them go back to their own beds. hence, the king size bed!! LOL. by the time the hormones started coming in, they werent interested in co-sleeping, so we're back down to two in the bed. LOL.
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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 7:56am
#1. Bf exclusively first 5mos. Rice cereal at 5 months, steamed and mashed fruit and veggies 6mos, cheerios-crackers-toast-chopped fruits-veggies and sippee cups of juice/b-milk 8mos ... full healthy diet by 1yo. Twins (parent forcefully induced, :-O) weaned from bf-ing 2yo, ds self weaned from b-fing at 5mos.

#2. Parenting style ... developmentally appropriate practices ... Jean Piaget.

#3. My ds was 12mos when we first left him overnight with his grandmother. I went back to work 11-7 when he was 3mos ... I woh three nites a week, his father was with him. Our twins were 20mos when I returned to woh 6pm-2am four nites a week and they were 3&1/2yo when I opened a child care in my home.

#4. We gave $2.00 per week to our ds from the time he was 6yo, and increased it a dollar a year till he was 12yo. Our twins got $4.00 per week each from 4yo, they helped pick up the playroom. They are 15 and earn about $7-750.00 each per year for helping me with the child care.

#5. My ds from 2yo was playing in his room alone, 5yo playing outside in our yard alone. He was 8yo before we allowed him free roam of the neighborhood, but he had to alert us whenever he was leaving. Our twins were not allowed to play upstairs by themselves until they had their own rooms which was last October, lol, when our ds moved out ... they are 15yo. These two got into everything and often had very physical spats. They were 13yo before we allowed free roam in the neighborhood and walking to local stores on Main St.

#5. My ds slept thru the night regularly by 2mos. My twins ... omg, they still wake up once or twice a night and chat with each other, and now that they are in separate rooms they rap on the wall. Sometimes dh and me hear them, most often we don't. As babies they never did ...

Linda

 

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 9:14am
I couldn't go 2 years without DH and I going on a date (dinner, theater, etc. or a friend's dinner party). I was just asking about being away overnight. Wow, you and your DH are very patient about waiting for your little one to grow up!

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Thu, 05-22-2003 - 11:58am
Oh you misunderstood! Sorry! I wasn't clear probably (lack of sweets and pepsi, lets blame it on that lol) We go on "dates" to dinner, movies, the bookstore wherever and the grandparents keep our little boy (and will keep the new baby), just not overnight very often. And of course when our little one goes to bed at night we have our time which is very special.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 3:27pm
1. At what age did your child(ren) try solid foods? At what age were they eating most types of solids? Too long ago to remember--they are almost 8 and 10 now, but think it was around 1 yr old when they had enough teeth to chew with.

2. Did/do you practice attachment parenting or any other parenting philosophy with a formal name? NO never heard of any of that, although dd was a very clingy child who I did wear and carry around most of her first 2 years. but they never slept in our bed, except an occasional thunderstorm or bad dream. and I did feed on demand up until about age 2, then decided that they could eat at prescibed times so I could be in other rooms of the house besides the kitchen all day. We have taken Love and Logic classes and really like the approach, but don't follow it on everything, think you can't really learn parenting from a class-you learn by trial and error!

3. At what age did or would you (and your spouse, if applicable) leave your child(ren) overnight? Left overnight- i had to go out of town for work when dd was 3 mos old but left her with dh, but still was very hard for me. I think the first weekend away for dh and I was when ds was just past a year and dd was 3-they stayed at my parents house. First sleepover at a friend's - ds when he was 4, dd when she was 6.

4. Do/did your children get an allowance? Beginning at what age, and how much? They started getting $5 a week in kindergarden. DD will get a raise to $7.50 this fall when she starts 4th grade

5. How old were/will your children be when you allow them to play in their rooms or elsewhere in your house/yard for short periods unsupervised? hmm dont remember that one either-sort of a gradual lessening of supervision. DD was much more self-sufficient as a toddler, after being a clingy baby, and played in her room for a long time, especially at bedtime and naptime. DS switched roles from not really liking to be held or carried to wanting to be where the action was all the time. and he liked to put stuff in his mouth, so I had to watch him more closely. Dont think he ever wanted to play by himself! lol! We had a fenced back yard so think they were playing out there at about 4 or 5. At 8 and 10 they can skate or bike ride anywhere on our street/cul-de-sac, but if they are going to a friends house to play they have to ask us first.

6. At what age did your children sleep through the night regularly? I was blessed with 2 kids who slept thru by 2 mos. old. That is, about 6 hours as 'the whole night' initially.