Parents letting their kids go under the knife!

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Parents letting their kids go under the knife!
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Mon, 07-30-2012 - 4:12pm

I  just can't see myself letting a child of mine get plastic surgery, but hard to deny a bullied child a chance for a somewhat normal life.  But how normal can they be if they are still carrying around the emotional stigma of years of being bullied about their appearance?  

ETA:  Probably help if I didn't hit accidentally hit post too soon.   I saw this girl on CNN that received plastic surgery through a non-profit.  I do have to admit she does look much prettier afterwards, although I thought she was pretty beforehand. Kids are self absorbed enough these days that it's worrisome that they will get hung up on looks too much.  I was also a bit put off by the surgeon coming up with more areas to fix instead of just her ears.  I'd like to see an update on her a year from now to see if she's still being bullied, my guess would be that she still is.  Kids won't stop being mean, they'll still have their favorite targets.  

http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2012/07/30/free-plastic-surgery-for-bullied-kids/?hpt=hp_bn12 

Chelsea

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Mon, 07-30-2012 - 8:00pm
I would have to think long and hard. No surgery is without risk. There is always risk for infections, adhesions, complications down the road. If minor procedures can cause all kinds of complications. I recently heard of someone who had a procedure done in a hospital and ended up in for over 30 days with infections and complications.

However, if the bullying was severe enough, I might consider it.
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 4:58pm

If it is the ears, then here in Sweden, we correct the ears when they stand out that much because it can lead to hearing problems.  So for me this isnt about  being beutiful but about getting good hearing. 

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 5:41pm
Very good point about the risks, and I'm not sure that a teen is able to fully think through the consequences.

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."

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Tue, 07-31-2012 - 5:45pm
Just had another thought, what if the teen wanted a boob job? I remembered a story about a mom giving her daughter a certificate for one if she ever wanted it. I don't know if it's fair or not, but makes me more on the negative side even if they are as flat as a pancake. Were if they wanted a procedure like this girl did to pin her ears back, I would be much more open to the suggestion. To me that's more about making yourself feel better sexually, so not sure a teen is prepared to handle that type of decision.

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."

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Registered: 07-24-2011
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 6:01pm

This would depend on the reason behind it. At first glance, plastic surgery made me think of people who encourage their children (daughters) to have breast implants or their nose 'fixed,' but in reality, there are many more reasons. The risks would have to far be outweighed by the benefits. One of my children had a hemangioma and it had to be surgically repaired. It did not have to be, it was not harming her, but it was getting larger and larger, and it was dangerously close to her eye. It risked injury if bumped (it is basically a vein that pops out through the skin and pumps blood like any other vein) and she would have likely been teased as she got older. It was minimally invasive. I guess each case would be decided on its own.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 8:37pm

  There is risk with any kind of surgery.  I do not think that I would have had my kids have any kind of elective surgery.

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Registered: 02-04-2009

Meh.  One of my best friends had a boob job in high school.  It made such a huge and positive change in her life, she has never regretted it.  I'm glad her parents worried more about her than about what other people might think about it.

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