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|Thu, 11-06-2003 - 1:21am|
The child is an only child and he definately is somewhat delayed emotionally - although intellectually he excels. Anyway, I have been of the mindset that she is simply defensive because she feels her parenting is being judged - and that she should heed the dcp's advice. She took her son to a child psychologist for an evaluation - based on the daycare's constant criticism and her increasing self doubt. Did I mention she is full of self pity as well? The psychologist had her, the daycare and the Kindergarten teacher complete behaviour assessments. He went and observed the child at the daycare, the school and at home.
He took all the testing and compiled his assessment. His report indicates that the child is suffering from some minor behaviour problems that could be easily managed with more active parenting (and gives her strategies). He states that the data compiled by the dcp could not be considered valid. Apparently the scores were outrageous and indicative of extreme exaggeration. He questions the perceptions of the dcp - the worker who has the most contact and interaction with the child is the one who completed the assessment. He had also interviewed several daycare staff. In the end, he believes that the daycare staff have preconceived notions about the child and his mother and that they are judging him based on those notions. The report actually says, although I can't remember the exact wording - that the staff basically do not like the mother or the child.
I was shocked. I truly believed that this testing was going to show this mom that she really needed to stop being so defensive and start parenting. LOL. Well, I guess I've been a tad judgemental myself! I suggested to her that if I were her I would remove him from that daycare. That is not an option for her because it is the only facility in town. Next year he will be in full time school and the daycare runs the before and after school care program as well. I would be very concerned for this child. WWYD? As a dcp, are you aware of your biases - are there kids you just don't particularily like? If so, how does that impact your interactions with the child? If you were a parent, WWYD? She is very shaken and doesn't know how to respond. Obviously it is an awkward situation for her - this psychologist's report is a private arrangement - the daycare would not be receiving a copy. I just thought maybe some of you on this board would have some insight or wisdom to share on this problem. Thanks in advance!