Playing at the Park

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Playing at the Park
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Sun, 08-17-2014 - 12:55pm

At what age did you play at the park alone?

At what age did you allow your children to go to the park without adult supervision?

I ask, because I'm disturbed by a few recent news stories about mothers getting arrested for neglect after their children were found at the park alone.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2014/07/arrested-for-letting-a-9-year-old-play-at-the-park-alone/374436/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/15/mom-arrested-food-bank_n_5682429.html?ir=Impact

http://www.cnn.com/2014/07/31/living/florida-mom-arrested-son-park/

What do you think? Do you agree that these parents were neglectful? Or is this ridiculous?

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Sun, 08-17-2014 - 1:22pm

 I grew up in the country so there were no parks to play at but I do remember playing in the elementary  school playground with siblings while my mother was inside for school conferences.

 I do not know exactly with my kids,  it varied quite a bit according to the circumstances of where we were living at the time. They got a bit more freedom when we were living on military bases then when we not so in some cases one child may have been allowed to do something at a younger age than another. 

I only actually read one of the links so cannot say if they are ridiculous but in reading stories like it in the past I think than many people are over reacting on how much freedom a child should be allowed.   Being able to function alone without a parent or other adult always being there is a skill to be learned and like so many other skills something that comes in steps.  This could be a step along the way.

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Sun, 08-17-2014 - 1:46pm

just_another_marla wrote:
<p>At what age did you play at the park alone?</p><p>At what age did you allow your children to go to the park without adult supervision?</p><p>I ask, because I'm disturbed by a few recent news stories about mothers getting arrested for neglect after their children were found at the park alone.</p><p>http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2014/07/arrested-for-letting-a-9-year-old-play-at-the-park-alone/374436/</p><p>http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/15/mom-arrested-food-bank_n_5682429.html?ir=Impact</p><p>http://www.cnn.com/2014/07/31/living/florida-mom-arrested-son-park/</p><p>What do you think? Do you agree that these parents were neglectful? Or is this ridiculous?</p>

I think we were pretty free range from about 7 years old.

My kids were a bit older, they were 10 or so.

I think it's silly, just like arresting someone for the curse words in front of her kids.

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Sun, 08-17-2014 - 6:01pm

I think there is more to each one of those stories than what meets the eye, I did glean through some of the comments and I agree with the opinion(s) that if the child was abducted the authorities would be all over the parents for neglect, Is that what's worth waiting for first? I don't think so. About my own childhood experience, We were gone all day when I was a kid but I never felt like I was abandoned, My mother was at home always and honestly, I always remember being with a pack of friends too. I never went to the park/the pool/whatever by myself, That's just the way it was.  Time are very different today.

 

 

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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 8:35am

At what age did you play at the park alone? We did not have a park. We had a forest surrounding a large lake. We were allowed to ride our bikes down into the forest and till the end of the lake by the time we were about 7 or 8. Before that we were only allowed out on the village green (by ourselves, I mean), which was in front of the house.

At what age did you allow your children to go to the park without adult supervision? Around age 8 or 9. We are in a big city, and the "park" was really just the church square nearby.

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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 8:37am

About my own childhood experience, We were gone all day when I was a kid but I never felt like I was abandoned, My mother was at home always and honestly, I always remember being with a pack of friends too. I never went to the park/the pool/whatever by myself, That's just the way it was.  Time are very different today.

So if you had been abducted, wouldn't the police have been all over your parents too?

How are times different now? Somebody tried to abduct me when I was child. I was walking home from school in my sleepy, "safe" Danish suburb.

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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 8:45am

Being able to function alone without a parent or other adult always being there is a skill to be learned and like so many other skills something that comes in steps.  This could be a step along the way

ITA.

 


 


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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 8:51am

  Rolls post got me thinking that I was possibly taking park too literal.   As I said I grew up in the country so there were no parks, but I lived on a dead end road and at the end of the road was what we called the "sand hill"  a large pile of sand proabaly a left off of some construction project.  We used to go there to play,  in the sand and woods behind the hill in the summer and sledding down the hill in the winter.  I was doing that by 7 or so. 

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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 9:10am

emptynester2009 wrote:
<p>  Rolls post got me thinking that I was possibly taking park too literal.   As I said I grew up in the country so there were no parks, but I lived on a dead end road and at the end of the road was what we called the "sand hill"  a large pile of sand proabaly a left off of some construction project.  We used to go there to play,  in the sand and woods behind the hill in the summer and sledding down the hill in the winter.  I was doing that by 7 or so. </p>

My childhood home was near a school and playground, Perfect opportunity to snatch up a kid I guess.  I learned to ride a bike there and I later learned to operate a car there when I was 16.  What I am reminded of was the kidnapping and killing of Adam Walsh, That became big news b/c that stuff just never happened (not literally please), While the circumstances were different it did lead to a lot of good public awareness in keeping kids safe. 

ETA that Adam Walsh story was 1981. 

 


 


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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 9:24am

That became big news b/c that stuff just never happened (not literally please), While the circumstances were different it did lead to a lot of good public awareness in keeping kids safe. 

Are you saying that people are more aware now?

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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 9:26am
Less connected families, broken homes, too much too soon in freedoms allowed for kids all contribute to what is very different now than when I was a kid, JMO/E.

 


 


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