Question Re: What to Say?
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|Tue, 03-02-2004 - 12:28pm|
One of my co-workers, who is a very lovely person, a good friend and about 80 pounds overweight, comes by my office every morning to chat. Every morning she tells me how fat she feels, "do I look ok?", "are these pants too tight?", etc. Seriously this happens every stinking morning.
I tell her she looks fine. *Every morning*.
Is there any tactful way to say "please don't ask me if you look ok every morning"?? (BTW: I would feel the same way about these questions if she were skinny/average/whatever. I just find these inquiries to be annoying across the board when they're asked all the time.)
I know she *wants* to lose weight, she just doesn't have the motivation to do so. We talk about it a lot and I go to a Pilates or yoga class with her once a week b/c she's the type of person that needs a "gym buddy" in order to follow through.
She is one of the nicest people that I know. I don't know if her morning "stop bys" are to hear me say she looks Ok and give her a bit of confidence to go about her day or what. But honestly, she doesn't look ok. I know she knows this. So why does she ask me to tell her something that she knows is false?
Any suggestions? Should I just keep my mouth shut and put up with the daily routine? :)