Relationship after baby, did it change ?
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Relationship after baby, did it change ?
| Wed, 11-03-2010 - 3:46pm |
It's an age old complaint, "my husband is such a jerk since we had the baby," "he still thinks his day should consist of work and video games till supper,"
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Indirectly, it did.
I don't know how a relationship could NOT change once you add another person to it, no matter how cute that person is. Especially when you add in sleepless nights, spitup, dirty diapers and a whole new language ("Is baby Mommy's widdle punkin?") to the mix.
In my marriage, having kids (said kids are still very young, too) has made the highs higher and the lows lower. It's made us appreciate our together time, it's allowed us to make do with silent quickies, and it's made us sick of the sight of each other. Sometimes all in one day!
Yeah, there's been a little change! lol
Kevali
i'm one of those parents who doesn't remember what life was like before kids, neither does DH.
Of course it changed.
I will go with this one, lol. Only one exception, there was no "widdle punkin" in my house. I was way too self-conscious ever to talk like that.
But yes, how can it not change somehow? I don't think people change upon becoming parents so much as they become more themselves. Suddenly dh would appear to be channeling his mom, for example, which was SCARY! I am sure I pulled similar stunts. You tend to revert to reflexes learned in childhood and those are not always so good.
It did change, mostly how we did things. When the kids were little we could still do most things we used to. As that got older, it was a little harder and we had to get more sitters.
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Yeah, we had kids 5 years after we got married, 10 years after we met. We still enough our alone time though and plan to do a vacation without the kids for our 20th anniversary.
My parents only took one vacation without us, for their 25th anniversary. I like taking my kids as I would like them to experience things outside of their normal life. They enjoy it too.
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