Right vs. Wrong, a morality question

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Right vs. Wrong, a morality question
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 5:11pm
The Liberal v Conservative thread got me thinking while I was unloading the dishwasher. I said I thought more in terms of black and white: right or wrong vs. seeing shades of gray, which, admittedly, is why I'm so unswaying in my views.

Are there certain things in your mind that are absolutely, without a doubt, wrong? Are there exceptions to it under certain circumstances, or is it always wrong?

I'll give an example. You could say, "Killing a person is wrong." But what if it is in self-defense? What if you have to kill in order to not be killed? Is it still wrong?

What about consequences? If you do something you think is wrong, are you prepared for the consequences?

Just thought this could be interesting. I'll post my list and dishwasher thoughts after a few people respond.


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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 5:23pm
Dh views EVERYTHING as black and white. I do not. That's why we don't agree on the abortion issue. For him, killing a fetus is ALWAYS wrong, always murder, no matter what...I don't feel the same way...I think it depends on the situation.

I tend to think that there are more things that are always *right* than always *wrong*, kwim?

It's always right to help your fellow man. Maybe they don't deserve it, but it's right to try and help someone, for example.

I am not much of an *always* person.... I think, when it comes to decision-making, there's choices that depend on the situation.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Thu, 06-17-2004 - 5:58pm
I'm a very gray person. I think actions such as stealing, lying, illegal drug use and killing are wrong MOST of the time. But I believe there are some situations where they are not. Stealing a loaf of bread because your family is starving, lying to preserve someone's feelings (i.e. no, that outfit doesn't make you look fat), use of drugs to alleviate pain due to a terminal illness, killing in self-defense.

About the only things that come to my mind right now that I believe to ALWAYS be wrong are rape and child abuse. I cannot think of a single instance where these would not be wrong.

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Thu, 06-17-2004 - 11:30pm

You are so me. Adultery is wrong unless the

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:00am
>>Killing is wrong unless it is self defense or the person hurt/molested your child.<<

I just read a fantastic novel about this (mother killing someone who molested her son). "Perfect Match" by Jodi Picoult - not easy to stomach, but very thought provoking. Makes you wonder what you would do in a situation like that . . . kinda scary.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 6:43am
I'm pretty darn black and white. And one of my pet peeves is when somebody does something wrong then whines about the consequences. Or, worse yet, refuses to be accountable.
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Registered: 03-23-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 8:30am
I'm very "whatever" about a lot of things, but I have a pretty long laundry list of absolute wrongs. Generally, they fall under the catagory of "actions which harm others." Stealing. Violence. Cheating. The kind of lying that's harmful. Violating someone's trust.
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:49pm
Yeah....exactly what she said!


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Sun, 06-20-2004 - 4:12pm

I look for a reason behind everything.