Roll Call Thread......

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Roll Call Thread......
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm

There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...


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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 3:52pm

i just replied to finally.me.


i don't think there was some demon motive behind you getting married either,i can see that in your posts.

 

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 3:52pm
There is also the fact that there are a lot of events I would rather not attend but that it is important to someone else that I be there. I go to a lot of events where I barely know the people but my husband does, or something like that. I find that my tolerance of weddings and such like is tied directly to the amount of affection I feel for the couple. These days most of the weddings I am invited to are for the children of old friends. If the kids are people I know and like I am much more "into" the wedding than if I only know the parents of the couple.
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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 3:55pm
Yeah, I know there are people out there like that. I didn't have to be "the first" to get married. We were just ready and that is what we wanted to do. We waited 5 yrs. to have our 1st child so we were definately not the first as IME people have children sooner than that after marriage.
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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:00pm

>> So you have never heard of someone coming to the ceremony that was not invited to the reception? <<

Yes, I have, and I said that earlier, that I had heard of it happening in the South. But I've never experienced it in my region, or to use bord's word, in my subculture.

If I want to wish a bride and groom well and am not invited to share in their wedding day, I send a card or a gift, or both.

>> Or someone invited to both but could not come to the ceremony? <<

Of course. People get lost, or what have you. I myself once nearly missed a wedding ceremony because I got lost and was a bit late, and the ceremony was THAT short.

I've never heard of anyone PLANNING to attend just a reception and not the ceremony.

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:00pm
Yes, we mostly get invited by the parents or for political reasons. Typically we go because we are obliged to. So, we end up seated with people we do not know and once the music starts you can't really talk to anyone anyway. OTOH, if the parties were smaller, say 100 people or less, and you knew more than 2 of them, it might be ok.
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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:02pm

Dh and I are going to a wedding this weekend of a child of a friend.

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:03pm

That's true. All of us do those things out of obligation (heartfelt though it may be) from time to time.

(I am still a sucker for weddings, though.)

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:10pm
The last wedding I went to was really painful. The bride was the daughter of a friend of mine, but because she and the groom had already had a child -- who was about eight weeks old when the wedding took place, the parents of the bride did not attend. But they are friends of mine, and allowed me to take their two teenaged daughters, younger sisters of the bride. The groom's family was there, including his father and several of his ex-wives, along with his current wife and their toddler children. The groom's grandmother wore blue jeans and a t-shirt and was escorted in by a relative in a tux. The minister chewed gum throughout the ceremony. The reception was held in the garage of a friend of the couple, but because we were friends of the bride's parents, nobody on the groom's side would speak to us. By the time it came time to cut the cake, nobody from the groom's family was sober enough to help serve the cake, so I ended up doing it. The bride was almost in tears by then. I took the two teen sisters and lit out for home as soon as I could, in all decency.
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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:36pm

">> So you have never heard of someone coming to the ceremony that was not invited to the reception? <<

Yes, I have, and I said that earlier, that I had heard of it happening in the South. But I've never experienced it in my region, or to use bord's word, in my subculture.

If I want to wish a bride and groom well and am not invited to share in their wedding day, I send a card or a gift, or both."

To each his own. I have always wanted to see the bride and groom get married and have gone many times with family, friends and co-workers.

">> Or someone invited to both but could not come to the ceremony? <<

Of course. People get lost, or what have you. I myself once nearly missed a wedding ceremony because I got lost and was a bit late, and the ceremony was THAT short.

I've never heard of anyone PLANNING to attend just a reception and not the ceremony."

One example I had made before was that my dh and I were getting engagement pictures done the same day and time of his cousin's ceremony, we could not attend but came to the reception.

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Mon, 04-20-2009 - 4:46pm
Lots of people -- including the bride -- asked us Saturday where our kids were.

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