Roll Call Thread......

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Roll Call Thread......
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm

There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...


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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 9:39am
LOL, not exactly, but both among Catholics and the Lutherans of my childhood, it is often considered a duty/good thing to attend church services on a regular basis (Greeks, OTOH, are quite indifferent on this point).
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:02am
I wouldn't like that either. People I don't know from Adam would be "crashing", IMO, not friends of friends or family who know me-shrug.
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:04am
You would have people "ejected" from your ceremony who were not invited to your reception? :0
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:06am

"The mass that is part of the wedding "counts" as attending church mass so it's a twofer."

lol-true. I went to the ceremony which my sister was in and I knew the bride and groom but was not invited to the reception. The priest told everyone that this was considered "mass" for the week :)

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:07am

"Also, I really can't imagine crashing a ceremony held in a catering hall or similar venue."

If you ask, you won't know if they allow it. I have been to ceremonies that have taken place in the reception venue without going to the reception.

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:21am

I have honestly not heard of it being OK for just anyone to wander into a wedding ceremony, no. And if you read the links that I provided last week, you will read of several families highly distressed by people who were neither invited to, nor wanted at the wedding ceremony just showing up -- and the general consensus was that bringing extra people, and/or showing up somewhere you were not invited was rude.

I am willing to believe that it is different in your area of the country, just like they do things a little differently in Palermo than they do in Rome, and differently still in Milan or Munich. But I think the customs you describe are not the norm throughout the country, and indeed, seem to be limited to a rather narrow portion of the country.

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:24am
Me too. I am not very happy with the whole "wedding as public spectacle" idea, but that is probably a product of the way I have been raised and my own experiences. I have been in Europe where weddings and other ceremonies are held in a cathedral that is open to the public...you will find lots of tourists wandering around taking pictures of these brides. I wonder if the open wedding thing is a holdover from the European experience in areas with high numbers of immigrants from Europe?
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:41am

None of these people answering that it is ok to have people come to the ceremony and not reception (because EVERYONE is welcome in God's home :) ) are from places not anywhere near where I live an in different parts of the country:

http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/ceremony-only-invites/522abdedb45a90de.html

http://www.brides.com/forums/planning-and-etiquette/thread.jspa?messageID=193860

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:43am
ALL churches and cathedrals are open to the public, even during weddings.
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 11:48am
You noticed that on the first one, the woman is asking if it is OK to INVITE people to the ceremony, but not to the reception? And on the second one, it is a person who is having a church wedding and a small reception immediately after the wedding, and a larger party/reception afterward? And that there is controversy over the whole thing?

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