Roll Call Thread......

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Roll Call Thread......
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm

There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 12:59pm

I dunno, I was raised in part on the east coast, and still go to the weddings of my cousins' children on the east coast, and we have never heard of such a thing. I am wondering if it is more an ethnic/Catholic thing.

I have been thinking of the whole "open church" thing and ceremonies. A church wedding is not that different from a church funeral or a church baptism in that they are all religious ceremonies marking stages in people's lives. Around here, baptisms are usually done at a church service and anyone can and should come as it marks the accepting of a new Christian into a church community. It is a community thing. Funerals are open unless it is announced that there will be "private" services and I think it would be considered very rude to crash a private funeral service and/or burial. Neither of these rituals is usually by invitation only, except in the case of private funerals. Even suppers after a funeral are open to whoever attended the funeral.

In some congregations in the south,I have heard of weddings where the whole church is invited, and in our church, there is sometimes a general invitation extended to the whole congregation, but without that invitation, people do not just "show up." A wedding is considered an affair for those that the bride and groom wish to invite; marriage is not a sacrament in our faith and I wonder whether that has something to do with the whole idea of an open vs a closed ceremony???? Dunno.

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 12:59pm
Not this part of the East Coast.

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:13pm

"There are also weddings where the invitation is printed in the church newsletter, usually a bride or groom or both who has grown up in the church and who would like to invite the whole congregation to the service."

So it is not just MY sub-culture then, correct?

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:14pm

Even if the church is open to the public, attending a ceremony you aren't invited to is completely inconsiderate of the person who made up the guest list.


My cousin was married in the very small country church that she and her dh attend.


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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:14pm

"As for crashing a ceremony in a catering hall, that is just inexcusable by any standard."

ITA with you :0

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:14pm

Every church I have ever been to in my own faith or outside of my faith as a vistor or a tourist (historic churches) have all had visting hours posted, they are not open 24/7/365.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:16pm
Again, since you never answered my question, do you consider family and friends "crashers"?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:16pm

I agree, we are the same religion and not all weddings are open to the general congregation.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:16pm
Nope, you can see from the links I posted it is not and bordwithyou just indicated about her church :)
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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:19pm
Nope, I have been to other churches besides RCC for wedding ceremonies.

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