Roll Call Thread......

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Roll Call Thread......
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Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm

There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...


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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:21pm
So basically only certain people were only allowed to see them get married (the ENTIRE point of the day)?
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Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:22pm

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:24pm
She did not say ALL wedding are like that for her church. She said some do that. That is different from what you said.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:26pm

No, the entire point of the day is for them to GET married.


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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:27pm

Yes so it is NOT unheard of in her church as she has been indicating how it only in MY sub-culture :)

You seem very familiar, do I know you?

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Registered: 03-26-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:30pm

"No, the entire point of the day is for them to GET married. Who gets to see it is up to the bride and groom."

Exactly and if they considered it too private and only wanted certain people, it would be a closed ceremony, none were that I have attended.

"Way to skirt the point, though...would it not have been inconsiderate, at best, for people to show up uninvited at the ceremony, giving no thought to the possibility that there are reasons for whoever was invited to be invited and whoever was not invited not to be."

IME people who go to the ceremony, like myself are not invited for several reasons, mostly budget reasons. I would have loved to have everyone who attended my ceremony to come to my reception but that was not possible.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:32pm

You indicate that in your subculture anyone can come to any wedding if they want to, without invitation.

In her subculture, sometimes the bride & groom invite the rest of the congregation.

Those 2 situations are hardly the same thing.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:35pm
How would you have known if it was a ceremony that was closed/private? You indicate that you crash whenever you know about a wedding of a co-worker or acquaintance, sans invitation. You also said you do not ask ahead of time.
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Registered: 02-07-2009
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:38pm
In the example that she gave some choose to invite the entire congregation by announcing it in the church bulletin. So those people are not crashing they were invited. That is different from what you have stated.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:39pm

But you just said that the entire point was for people to see them get married.


Anyway, doesn't the extension of invitations, in and of itself, already say that it's a "closed" ceremony?


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