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| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm |
There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...
| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm |
There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...
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The only person whose presence is necessary at the birth of a baby is the birthing mother and somebody to deliver the baby. I did NOT want my parents witnessing the birth!!! And of course they didn't. Not that they asked to. They even found it peculiar that dh was there although they accepted "that's the way people seem to do it these days". I asked my mom if my dad was there to see me born. She looked at me like I had 3 heads and said, "what would be the point? I didn't see it either. I was unconscious".
"I don't think it's appropriate for the birthing mother's own father or any other makle relative to be there"
My friend's father delivered her kids, he was an OBGYN. Another Dr took care of her during her pregnancy and
I hadn't even considered a Dad-as OB/GYN angle but hey, I guess anything is possible. I'm not going to be ironclad and stick to my guns and say the birthing mother's father or other adult male relatives should be barred if both she wants them there. But I will stick to my guns on her children. I think that whether the birthing mother wants them there or not, no child should see his mother give birth to a sibling unless there is some sort of emergency that makes it inescapable (they're out in the boonies in a car when she delivers???). But if it's avoidable I really think it should be avoided even if the birthing mother wants it. It seems to cross a line to me and is something that children are not emotionally equipped to process. I think that it is utterly different from letting your kid watching a mom deliver on the Health Channel. It's one thing for a child to see an unrelated woman give birth on film. It's quite another to
"I don't get the whole notion that the wedding day is less importnat than the marriage."
"The joy of having a parent around for special events apparently varies."
I don't know, I wouldn't want my kids there but I know someone who had at least one of hers at home and they let the kids decide if they wanted to watch. I remember them saying that one of them they woke her up and she said let me know when it's over. I think it was only the older ones they gave the option of watching, they had 8 total, 7 girls and 1 boy, he was the next to last baby and it may have been his birth. I know the oldest was around 12-14 at the time so I'm thinking it was the kids over 10 they allowed to watch but really I'm not sure.
My mom was 8 when her youngest sister was born and didn't even know her mom was having a baby till she heard the baby cry.
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I was :)
I don't like people looking at me but that went away really soon :)
Edited 4/15/2009 4:42 pm ET by coconutshrimp
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