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| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm |
There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...
| Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:49pm |
There are a lot of new posters out there and some old faces, lets all introduce ourselves again...
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Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Why hide your light under a bushel of bears, I ask you?
Titillating? No, not that. I was thinking "disturbing". I think that children generally find the thought of their parents' sexuality to be too disturbing to think about and don't like to be confronted with evidence of its existence. In youth they may walk in on their parents accidentally and as older children they'll be able to deduce just by learning how babies are made. But I think children really NEED to draw that line and remain as ignorant as possible of their parents' sexuality. This includes not seeing the parental genitals. I don't know exactly how this "disturbing" would manifest, but I don't think it';s a good idea even if I can't come up with a specific neurosis. I think there must be a deep core psychological reason why children so commonly mentally shield themselves from awareness of parental sexuality and this crosses that through that shield. We as adults can witness birth without thinking of sex, but a child, even a teen, has only known how that baby got in there in the first place for a few years at most so the mental connection is still pretty fresh...and raw.
dh and i had LONG talks about what we wanted for our honeymoon. When we boiled it all down here's what we got: we wanted beautiful beaches, fabulous food and places to visit. For us, that boiled down to St. Martin.
Then we had to decide what kind of accomodations we wanted. given that we have FOUR children under our roof, we wanted peace and quiet AND privacy. Therefore, we decided to rent a private condo. It cost us approximately $1500 for a 1-BR condo with all the amenities PLUS it had a private jacuzzi AND its own pool. It was also set about 3/4 the way up a mountain overlooking one of the harbors where the cruise ships come in. It was worth every single penny and was EXACTLY the type of honeymoon/vacation we were looking for.
We're hoping that in 2 years when we celebrate our 5th anniversary, he'll get his 25 year bonus (assuming the company is still doing that). We're going to use that money to go back to the caribbean -- although we haven't talked about whether we'd go the same island or somewhere different.
I wish you lots of love and happiness. the second time around I married my best friend and soul mate. I'm happier now than at ANY time in all my years married to ex (almost 15 of them!)-- "maybe" with the exception of when my children were born.
eileen
actually, we needed two witnesses for our ketubah (jewish marriage contract). We were supposed to have two JEWISH witnesses that were NOT related to us -- one was Steve's sister-in-law. Then we were stuck because there was no one else that fit that category -- at all, LOL! Then after speaking with the rabbi, it was decided that since the ketubah wasn't a strictly "kosher" ketubah (because it is/was beautiful, fancy, decorative), that we could ask some other close family friend -- so we asked our previous nanny to be our other witness.
The rabbi said that, at that point, we were married anyway -- but we decided to continue with the day as planned, LOL!
eileen
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that's how it was with our ketubah.
eileen
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