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Fri, 12-18-2009 - 10:15am

...saw this and thought of you :O)

Cancel all clubs, ditch the after-school activities and leave those kids alone, urges Tom Hodgkinson

All parents have a nagging sense that somehow we are doing it all wrong and that more work needs to be done. But the problem is that we put too much work into parenting, not too little. By interfering a lot, we are not letting children grow up and learn themselves. The child who has been overprotected will not know how to look after himself. We are too much in children's faces. We need to retreat. Let them live.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 10:25am

LOL, thanks! FTR though, dd had plenty of activities, as long as she could get herself to them (partly kidding, I did lots of schlepping, but by the time she was 12 or so, she was expected to get herself to and fro).

My parents had a friend, who always used to say, when the adults demanded we come in from playing, for example, "Leave them alone, children need PEACE!" I think he had a good point. When they sit there doodling, digging in the sand or whatever, all kinds of things are going on and it is a good idea to just let them be.

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Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.

Oscar Wilde