SAH/WOH and educational decisions

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Registered: 04-22-2005
SAH/WOH and educational decisions
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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 9:29pm

In what ways, if any, did your preference of work status affect your educational/career decisions? For example, I was originally going to go to medical school, but changed my mind because I knew that as a doctor I would not have the work/family schedule that I preferred. In the meantime, I saw professors with their children on campus all the time. It appeared to be a nice balance, and it partially influenced my decision to go into academia as a career instead.

What educational or career choices did you make based on your preferred work/family balance?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:21am

I never really had much of a plan either way. When I was young, I was quite determined that I would never have any kids. That changed, but I am still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, lol.

We did eventually work out a modus operandi after dd was born that took into account that we had a kid to bring up, but also tried to take our needs into account. It involves compromises all around, but it has worked reasonably well all things considered. Now that we have a bit more room to move (one reason being dd's age), I have gone back to school in the hope of wringing a second career out of my meandering life course.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 9:37am

"What educational or career choices did you make based on your preferred work/family balance?"


I think the question is being asked backward.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:05am
It wasn't my dream or anything to be a doctor, just expected in my family. Almost all of my relatives work in medicine, and the ones that don't are lawyers. One law class was enough for me to know that I hated it, and although I found my pre-med courses much more interesting, I couldn't stand the idea of putting off children past my 20s. I've always envisioned having all of my children by the time I'm 32. I have to have my ovaries out by 36 or so due to my family's freakish history of ovarian cancer (out by 38 or else dead by 45).
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:16am

I'm always a little surprised when I hear about women determined to have kids young.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:31am
I met my husband at 18 and we knew within a year that we wanted to marry each other someday, so I never had much of a chance to think about what would happen if I never met someone before 30. But if I hadn't met someone before 30, then I would hope that I could conceive quickly, because after a short time adoption would be my only option.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:34am

"What was your plan if you hadn't met anyone prior to age 30?"


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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:34am

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:38am

Oh, I agree, it's just that I can't imagine planning on something like meeting the right person to spend the rest of your life with at a certain age.

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:40am
Yes, I'm sure you're right.

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Wed, 01-07-2009 - 10:48am

I think the way you did it was a great fit

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