The Semicolon Project

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The Semicolon Project
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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 12:52am

Any of you have teens who are talking about the semicolon project today? Evidently we should all be checking our children's wrists.  < https://m.facebook.com/pages/The-Semicolon-Project/659615364052145?id=659615364052145&_rdr>

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:13am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p> <blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Any of you have teens who are talking about the semicolon project today? Evidently we should all be checking our children's wrists.  &amp;amp;amp;lt; https://m.facebook.com/pages/The-Semicolon-Project/659615364052145?id=659615364052145&amp;amp;amp;amp;_rdr&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I'd hope parents are doing more than just checking their childrens' wrists.  There are these groups/projects that my kids talk about at their schools and we talk about this at home too, Their perspectives are very interesting to listen to.  But like the compassion thread, I'm not sure where you're trying to go here, I don't see this one debate worthy either. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;. How often should a parent be checking their teens accounts, in your opinion?  My son showed me several Instagram accounts last night where it looked to me where the kids with the photos of their wrists were really reaching out for help.  Mostly girls.  Also, there are ten thousand new ways for kids to get in trouble online.  How many of these do you know about?     &amp;lt;http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/7-dangerous-apps-that-parents-need-to-know-about/&amp;gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>How often is a parent not checking or communicating with their child is what you should ask, bordwithyou. And further, I think kids that are reaching out for help online aren't getting that help or support in real life, How many children do you  know that actually have slit thier wrists and killed themselves or threatened to kill themselves?  So you and your son talk, Now that's a good thing, That should be encouraged <em>early</em>.  </p>

Aww, see?  There really WAS something to debate. I love a happy ending.

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:15am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;If they drew semicolons on their wrists yesterday as a cry for help, would you honestly know about it?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;Yep, why wouldn't I&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;I would too.  And frankly, I think there's no difference b/w not knowing and knowing but doing nothing about what your kids are saying, talking about, drawing on themselves/their wrists etc.  I don't know, communication is critical and always has been IMO.  &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote>. Me too.  That's why I aleays wondered why parents who claim to be monitoring their kids and communicating with their kids do nothing when their teens do things like post their phone numbers and pictures of their high school schedules and half naked selfies.  But it happens, more than you think.  And if they are doing all that on their public accounts, it makes you wonder what they are doing on snapchat and private apps.</p>

You are awful concerned about others' parenting bordwihtyou.  I find your stalking concerning, It is creepy and it says a lot about you as a person not others.  Ironic isn't it, the fault you find in others is really about you. 

 


 


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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:17am

That's why I aleays wondered why parents who claim to be monitoring their kids and communicating with their kids do nothing when their teens do things like post their phone numbers and pictures of their high school schedules and half naked selfies.

You know parents like this?

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:17am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Is responsible parenting even up for debate savcal? If your child is depressed or exhibiting behaviors that require attention would you not take take it upon yourself to use the powers as a parent to find the resources, the help, etc he needs...  Or do you see that as not your problem but his, or your ex's problem, or...  Curious. </p>

Of course responsible parenting is up for debate.  There's disagreement about what constitutes responsible parenting - especially here on this board. 

If my child exhibited behaviors indicative of a mental illness or other condition requiring professional help, i would do everything i could to get the help they need.  I would call that part of my responsibility as a parent.  I would consider that my problem, my ex's problem, and my child's problem. 

What makes you think I wouldn't do so?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:18am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>I asked because most kids were not on facebook when it first started in 2004. SMH</p>

I believe she was speaking hyperbolically.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:22am

Here's another irony:  you blame bad parenting when kids are taken advantage of online.  But when your own kids are reckless, I don't see any "I'm a lousy parent" confessions.

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:23am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;If they drew semicolons on their wrists yesterday as a cry for help, would you honestly know about it?&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;Yep, why wouldn't I&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;br /&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;I would too.  And frankly, I think there's no difference b/w not knowing and knowing but doing nothing about what your kids are saying, talking about, drawing on themselves/their wrists etc.  I don't know, communication is critical and always has been IMO.  &amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="text-align:left; font-size:13px"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;br /&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;. Me too.  That's why I always wondered why parents who claim to be monitoring their kids and communicating with their kids do nothing when their teens do things like post their phone numbers and pictures of their high school schedules and half naked selfies.  But it happens, more than you think.  And if they are doing all that on their public accounts, it makes you wonder what they are doing on snapchat and private apps.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>You are awful concerned about others' parenting bordwihtyou.  I find your stalking concerning, It is creepy and it says a lot about you as a person not others.  Ironic isn't it, the fault you find in others is really about you.  </p>
.  I never found fault in anyone for looking someone up.  It's pretending to be someone else and actually engaging a kid that crosses the line into stalking in my book.  And hey, maybe now some kids will get the help they need because of this semicolon project.  I gotta hand it to the kids.  It's clever and effective.

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Registered: 12-22-2013
Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:24am

Jam's post was to Savcal, not you Bord. SMH

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:25am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That's why I aleays wondered why <strong>parents who claim to be monitoring their kids and communicating with their kids</strong> do nothing when their teens do things like post their phone numbers and pictures of their high school schedules and half naked selfies.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You know parents like this?</span></strong></p>
.  Sure do.  So do you.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 04-17-2014 - 11:27am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p>Jam's post was to Savcal, not you Bord. SMH</p>
. It was not clear who it was to before she edited it.  She doesn't want to be called Jams, didn't you know?

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