The Semicolon Project

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 12:52am

Any of you have teens who are talking about the semicolon project today? Evidently we should all be checking our children's wrists.  < https://m.facebook.com/pages/The-Semicolon-Project/659615364052145?id=659615364052145&_rdr>

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:11am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p> <blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Any of you have teens who are talking about the semicolon project today? Evidently we should all be checking our children's wrists.  &amp;amp;amp;lt; https://m.facebook.com/pages/The-Semicolon-Project/659615364052145?id=659615364052145&amp;amp;amp;amp;_rdr&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;I'd hope parents are doing more than just checking their childrens' wrists.  There are these groups/projects that my kids talk about at their schools and we talk about this at home too, Their perspectives are very interesting to listen to.  But like the compassion thread, I'm not sure where you're trying to go here, I don't see this one debate worthy either. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;. How often should a parent be checking their teens accounts, in your opinion?  My son showed me several Instagram accounts last night where it looked to me where the kids with the photos of their wrists were really reaching out for help.  Mostly girls.  Also, there are ten thousand new ways for kids to get in trouble online.  How many of these do you know about?     &amp;lt;http://www.checkupnewsroom.com/7-dangerous-apps-that-parents-need-to-know-about/&amp;gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>How often is a parent not checking or communicating with their child is what you should ask, bordwithyou. And further, I think kids that are reaching out for help online aren't getting that help or support in real life, How many children do you  know that actually have slit thier wrists and killed themselves or threatened to kill themselves?  So you and your son talk, Now that's a good thing, That should be encouraged <em>early</em>.  </p>
. No, that was a real question.  For years you have berated me because my son was tricked by a predator into friending her, something I found out about within 48 hours and put a stop to.  So now I'm asking you flat out.  You have two teenaged daughters who use social media.  If they posted personal information or a suicide threat, would you know about it?  If they drew semicolons on their wrists yesterday as a cry for help, would you honestly know about it? Kids are not always direct about their problems, and these days it's important to listen in a variety of ways.

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:13am

blackandwhitemolly wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Also, stuff like this really makes me nostalgic for the days whe all you had to do was monitor your young teen on Fb/twitter/myspace/Instagram.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">When were those days? </span></strong></p>
. It was a lot easier to keep track of kids online ten years ago when there was no snapchat or "HideMyApps" apps, when kids didn't all have personal devices.

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:15am

Good question Molly, Her idea of nostalgia as monitoring a kid's social media is kind of funny, Nostalgia to me is before online social media and iphones, Lol.

I don't know why that would be the only way to monitor your child and why you would indicate it was. 

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:16am

Not to me but I will answer for my own child:

If they posted personal information or a suicide threat, would you know about it?

Yep

If they drew semicolons on their wrists yesterday as a cry for help, would you honestly know about it?

Yep, why wouldn't I?

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:17am
I hadn't heard of it. But The Girl's wrists are clean ... :) The Boy is so out of the social media circle that I'm fairly certain he's never heard of it.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:19am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>If you were monitoring your child's facebook/social media then you'd know what they doing, who they were friending etc (at least IME).  I can't imagine being so absent bordwithyou. </p>

I monitor both my kids' social media accounts, but that isn't the end-all/be-all of *knowing* one's teen.  I think the personal interactions we have do a lot more for knowing what's going on with my kids than monitoring their social media sites does.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:20am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;Any of you have teens who are talking about the semicolon project today? Evidently we should all be checking our children's wrists.  &amp;lt; https://m.facebook.com/pages/The-Semicolon-Project/659615364052145?id=659615364052145&amp;amp;_rdr&amp;gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I'd hope parents are doing more than just checking their childrens' wrists.  There are these groups/projects that my kids talk about at their schools and we talk about this at home too, Their perspectives are very interesting to listen to.  But like the compassion thread, I'm not sure where you're trying to go here, I don't see this one debate worthy either. </p>

I don't know why you assume parents' aren't doing more ...  I, for one, do a lot more - but it isn't social media or viral things like the semicolon project that makes me do so. It's my responsibility as a parent that prompts me to do so.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:20am

. It was a lot easier to keep track of kids online ten years ago when there was no snapchat or "HideMyApps" apps, when kids didn't all have personal devices.

10 years ago? Your kids were on Facebook 10 years ago? 

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:21am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>>How often is a parent not checking or communicating with their child is what you should ask, bordwithyou. And further, I think kids that are reaching out for help online aren't getting that help or support in real life, How many children do you  know that actually have slit thier wrists and killed themselves or threatened to kill themselves?  So you and your son talk, Now that's a good thing, That should be encouraged <em>early</em>.  </p>

Finally, something of yours I can agree with.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 04-17-2014 - 10:22am

jamblessedthree wrote:
Good question Molly, Her idea of nostalgia as monitoring a kid's social media is kind of funny, Nostalgia to me is before online social media and iphones, Lol.

Umm, good, because I think funny is the way she meant it.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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