Sex ed

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 7:23am

This article made me shake my head:

"The important thing to know about Stenzel is that she admits that doesn’t care about her message’s effect on kids’ health. As I reported in my book Kingdom Coming: The Rise of Christian Nationalism, in 2003, Stenzel gave a speech to a fundamentalist conference called “Reclaiming America for Christ,” in which she rejected the idea that abstinence education should be judged by its effectiveness. “People of God,” she cried, “can I beg you, to commit yourself to truth, not what works ... I don’t care if it works, because at the end of the day I’m not answering to you, I’m answering to God!”

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In Ohio, for example, a new budget bill would fine teachers up to $5,000 for instruction condoning “gateway sexual activity”—essentially heavy petting. Tennessee passed a similar law last year, with a fine of $500. Teachers, then, will think twice before telling kids that, for example, they can’t catch a sexually transmitted disease by going to second base. But telling students that the birth-control pill could kill them? You can get paid for that."

http://www.thedailybeast.com/witw/articles/2013/04/19/pam-stenzel-america-s-abstinence-prophet.html

What have you taught your kids in this regard and how have you handled their sexual coming of age or, if your kids are still young, how do you plan to handle it?


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In reply to: rollmops2009
Thu, 04-25-2013 - 12:21pm

We started when I was pregnant with Erica with the book The First Nine Months and showed Joy the pictures of what her sibling looked like at the various stages.  And answered her (and later her sisters and now Dylan's) questions as they came up.  Angela said that having a baby brother when she was 13 was way more instructive than any sex ed class at school.

Dylan was 10 when Joy and family moved in with us.  She had kid #3 (Parker) while they lived with us.  Dylan asked questions, listened in on conversations (not that private as he was in the room with us), and lived through Joy's pregnancy, labor, breastfeeding (and pumping), and what living with a newborn was like.

Sex is just one part of raising children.  No different than teaching them anything else.  Both picking your nose and masterbating are to be done in private, not public places.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:22am

Ex and I were open about sex ed. 

When John turned 13, I bought a huge box of condoms, opened it and cut them into individual packages and put them all back inside the box and put it in John's bathroom.  Then I told him they were there for him, that I did NOT NOT NOT NOT want him to be sexually active, but more than than I didn't want him to die if he chose to start against my will.  Hence, the condoms placed in a way that made it difficult to me to be keeping track if he was using them or not or giving them out as party favors to his friends. 

Every 3 months, I changed the box, first just tossing them out and then later handing them off to my imaginary roommate.  I didn't want him to choose NOT to use them simply because he thought I might be keeping inventory.  Now, I concede he could well have chosen not to use them anyway.  I don't know and I don't care.  I can't FORCE him to use condoms any more than I could FORCE him to abstain from sex.   But I made sure he had the supplies he needed to at least help prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

I hate and despise out various religious groups have browbeaten the public school systems into lying to our students about the efficacy of birth control.  It offends me that their "truth" has to be bolstered by lies and anyway, why is religion sticking its nosey nose where it has no business being?

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:11am

Argh, iVillage.

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:09am

Double Post.

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:06am

I got the warm and fuzzies reading about Wellesley backing up the outspoken high school student. I hope that the principal of George Washington High School cried himself to sleep the night that he realized he's not master and commander of his students' lives and he cannot manipulate their conformity. What a fascist douche bag.

Sex education is a big subject currently in our household. 

I think sex ed is a vital part of education. I struggle to see it any other way. I can't wrap my mind around condemning children for their choices when they aren't even aware of the options.

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:01am

I teach age appropriate things. I answer everything and we are very open in our home. 

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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 8:24am
I answered all my kids' questions honestly and brought up topics I know they were curious about but maybe reluctant to being up. My older one went through a "Created by God" course at our church when he was 11 or 12. Very good, truthful, objective, non-judgmental. Somehow they didn't have it when the younger one was the right age. They know all the physiology from classes at school.
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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 8:14am
"DD3's answer "that is what you get in abstinence only classes."" ------- LOL
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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 7:47am

When I was in high school I took a class called Home and Family Development.  The teacher explained to us that in the state of Michigan she was not allowed ot discuss sex/birthd control  so if we have any questions in that area she would have to stop teaching and just talk. Which is exactly what she did when a girl asked if it were true that you could not get pregant if you had sex while standing up.

I have to admit that I was not good at talking about sex/birth control etc when my DDs were younger but I did make sure that they had access to the informtion in books.  Fast forward and because of family circumstances those things are being discussed.

A few weeks ago two of my DD posted on FB a huggies commercial they filmed in our town saying our town was chosen because of the baby booom going on.  They both posted "don't drink the water". To which I repliede "You do know where babies actually come from don't you".  DD3's answer "that is what you get in abstinence only classes."