Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:01am

OMG, tube tops, Yes! And the flashdance look that I bought with MY money.  My mom kept her opinion to herself about what I considered "in" then too, Lol.....  Darn those kinds of moms! 

 

 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:03am
Welcome to high school in the 21st century. We aren't the kind of people to try to ruin a young girl's life over a lapse in judgment. Usually all it takes is for the boy to tell the girl that he's deleted the picture and that he's disappointed in her for sending it.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:03am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>   You think that only other girls are seeing teenage girls underwear?  </blockquote></p><p>Yes.  Do you know differently?</p>

Oh just from reading various sources and knowing that there is a show called teen moms.  I'm pretty confident that there are teenage girls who have shown their underwear to someone other than other teenage girls.

What information do you have that only other teenage girls have seen other teenage girls underwear?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:05am

thardy2001 wrote:
Not in the slightest.  If a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available.  </p>

And if they boy/girl in question are getting intimate, and she says "No" ... what's to prevent some boys from saying "but her underwear says 'yes'."?   Yeah, it sounds silly, but this is exactly the kind of thing that perpetuates the "but she asked for it" or "but she was dressed like a tramp" defenses in cases of date rape.

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Registered: 11-14-2011
Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:06am
"Well her kid is one of the cool kids mops.... And no, I don't keep up with that." -------------Define cool. Do your kids try to keep up "with that"?
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:07am
"I have taught my kids that the exercise of their sexuality is indeed a moral issue. Frankly, if my 12 year old thought it was cool to adorn her crotch with messages advertising it's availability, I'd feel like I'd failed in the instilling basic values department." ----------- Yes.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:10am

<<I don't know why your focus is only on the girl.  Again, if a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available. >>

You might want to re-read my comments, it was a question as was the follow up post.  Let me ask it again, if a teen has underwear that states she is sexually available, woudn't that mean they were?  How does the random boy who can read come into the discussion?


 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:10am

bordwithyou wrote:
Welcome to high school in the 21st century. We aren't the kind of people to try to ruin a young girl's life over a lapse in judgment. Usually all it takes is for the boy to tell the girl that he's deleted the picture and that he's disappointed in her for sending it.

Yah.  Some local police departments have personnel specifically for cyber crimes committed locally and against local residents. 

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Registered: 11-14-2011
Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:11am
"Participating in these discussions does not mean Peachy is morally obligated to indulge your nosey snooping into the underwear preferences of her underage daughter. And it's more than a little gross for you to keep pressing her on the issue." ---------- Glad that I'mnot the only one who thought it was weird that she kept asking!
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:12am

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;   You think that only other girls are seeing teenage girls underwear?  &lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Yes.  Do you know differently?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Oh just from reading various sources and knowing that there is a show called teen moms.  I'm pretty confident that there are teenage girls who have shown their underwear to someone other than other teenage girls.</p><p>What information do you have that only other teenage girls have seen other teenage girls underwear?</p>

Thanks for the info.  Hopefully most parents aren't raising their children to be teen dads or moms.

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