Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:14am
"So your kid comes home and says she saw some rockin' underwear in the p/e locker room that she wants.. Do you tell her the stuff is trash?" ------------ First, if my daugther came home and told me about the "rockin' underwear" she saw in the locker room, we would be having a different discussion. Secondly, if I thought it was trachy, why wouldn't I tell her?
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:15am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>Not in the slightest.  If a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>And if they boy/girl in question are getting intimate, and she says "No" ... what's to prevent some boys from saying "but her underwear says 'yes'."?   Yeah, it sounds silly, but this is exactly the kind of thing that perpetuates the "but she asked for it" or "but she was dressed like a tramp" defenses in cases of date rape.</p>

OR if another girl reads the message, does that mean they are also sexually available? 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:15am

"Some girls wear thongs too, DD1 knows b/c she sees them in the locker room.  Good for you and your steadfast what's the big deal....  The more moms try and butt in here the more kids are going to turn the other way.  Undies like this probably fall under the category, buy them yourself with your own money if my girls really wanted them and thankfully that is still a year or two away when they get jobs, Lol."

To me it is underwear but I do NOT agree when it is targeted to YOUNG girls. This is nothing new either, except for this line that is going towards the much younger girls now. It is like piercings and coloring hair vs. tattoos. Anything that is not permanent does not bother me.  

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:16am
"My kids already have a good grasp of what I'll buy and what I won't and I'm lucky they respect that but I won't hold out hope that they must understand it, And I certainly won't use poor taste as some moral lesson with my kids." ------------- I would certainly hope that my daughter would understand why I oppose underwear with trashy saying on the crotch, and yes...it most certainly is a moral lesson.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:16am

"Some girls wear thongs too, DD1 knows b/c she sees them in the locker room. " ------------ But going by spicegirl's argument, you should go get your kid some thongs then, so she can be one of the cool kids too."

I own thongs but don't like them but they are very useful for certain types of pants. I am not sure why this is a big deal for older teen and adult women. YOUNGER girls, YES. I do not agree.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:17am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">pumpkinangel</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;pumpkinangel&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;   You think that only other girls are seeing teenage girls underwear?  &amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Yes.  Do you know differently?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Oh just from reading various sources and knowing that there is a show called teen moms.  I'm pretty confident that there are teenage girls who have shown their underwear to someone other than other teenage girls.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;What information do you have that only other teenage girls have seen other teenage girls underwear?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Thanks for the info.  Hopefully most parents aren't raising their children to be teen dads or moms.</p>

So you don't have any information to support your claim that only other teenage girls see other teenage girls underwear?  Further, if you truly believe such a statement, why bring boys who can read the sexually suggestive underwear into the discussion? 

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:18am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>Not in the slightest.  If a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>And if they boy/girl in question are getting intimate, and she says "No" ... what's to prevent some boys from saying "but her underwear says 'yes'."?   Yeah, it sounds silly, but this is exactly the kind of thing that perpetuates the "but she asked for it" or "but she was dressed like a tramp" defenses in cases of date rape.</p>

Yikes.  Boys who rape will do so whether the girl says no or not.  I can't speak to their criminal minds.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:19am

"Well her kid is one of the cool kids mops.... And no, I don't keep up with that." ---------- No, you may not keep up with that, but what if your kids want to keep up with that?"

It is underwear, not a permanent tattoo. lol

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:19am

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;pumpkinangel&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;thardy2001&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;gt;pumpkinangel&amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;   You think that only other girls are seeing teenage girls underwear?  &amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Yes.  Do you know differently?&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Oh just from reading various sources and knowing that there is a show called teen moms.  I'm pretty confident that there are teenage girls who have shown their underwear to someone other than other teenage girls.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;What information do you have that only other teenage girls have seen other teenage girls underwear?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Thanks for the info.  Hopefully most parents aren't raising their children to be teen dads or moms.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>So you don't have any information to support your claim that only other teenage girls see other teenage girls underwear?  Further, if you truly believe such a statement, why bring boys who can read the sexually suggestive underwear into the discussion? </p>

I said, since you know teen girls who are getting pregnant are also showing their underware to other boys, I'll take you word for it.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:19am

<<To me it is underwear but I do NOT agree when it is targeted to YOUNG girls. This is nothing new either, except for this line that is going towards the much younger girls now. It is like piercings and coloring hair vs. tattoos. Anything that is not permanent does not bother me.  >>

Yes and no for me.  I agree that it's not permanent in any case, however, they are not the same as normal ear piercings and coloring hair is not as intimate as underwear.  


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