Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:29am

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p>&lt;&lt;<span>I don't know why your focus is only on the girl.  Again, if a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available. &gt;&gt;</span></p><p><span>You might want to re-read my comments, it was a question as was the follow up post.  Let me ask it again, if a teen has underwear that states she is sexually available, woudn't that mean they were?  How does the random boy who can read come into the discussion?</span></p><p><span><br /> </span></p>

PKA, p13: ""If the underwear and sexual invitations on them, yes I would say that""

I've read your comments.  I particularly find your use p13 of the term "sexual invitations" to be offensive for the reasons I've stated.  You can re-read my comments on that.  You're the only mom here who has used that very off-putting term "sexual invitations." 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:29am

springfever2013 wrote:
Right there with you Jam. My teen does not wear the hoochie mama half shirts and short shorts with the butt hanging out. She is wearing exactly what is out there for teens and the underwear sold at every store is the same, unless of course they are wearing little girl cotton decorated panties or granny panties, which I won't even wear. lol.</span></span></strong></p>

This is such a bullcrap statement.  Hoochie mama half shirt and short shorts with the butt hanging out *ARE* out there for teens.  And the underwear sold at every store is *not* the same - as evidenced by the OP article about VS having undies for teens with sexually explicit sayings.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:31am

I have boys and this IS an issue for me. I've spent their lifetimes teaching them to respect women. Even when they don't appear to respect themselves. What kind of message does it send to a teen boy when her mouth says "no" but her panties say "Dare You?"


Really Bord? lol. So all your years of teaching will go down the drain if they are with a girl and their underwear says "Dare You". If they are getting THAT far with a girl, I don't think it matters WHAT it says on their underwear. Their intentions are to go much farther than just sititng there and reading it and saying, ok, she is saying "Dare You". 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:31am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>Yikes.  Boys who rape will do so whether the girl says no or not.  I can't speak to their criminal minds. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I agree ...b ut those same boys that are vile enough to rape a woman are vile enough to say its her fault because her underwear said it was okay.</p>

1.) What a woman wears while being raped is NOT admissible in court.  There are slim exceptions.  2.) A woman can change her mind at any time during any interaction. 

Criminal Law 101. Smile

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:34am
"So all your years of teaching will go down the drain if they are with a girl and their underwear says "Dare You". " ------------ Or maybe, the boy gets the message that mom was lying all those years, and girls don't deserve to be respected. Who knows what a "young man" thinks?
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:34am
springfever2013 wrote:
Not sure what a "nice" girl has to do with the type of underwear she wears lol.

IDK, I think if a teen has underwear that states she is sexually available, wouldn't that meant they were?  

Ummm...no PKA. And if she is with a boy and gets down to her underwear then it wouldn't matter if she had a saying on her underwear or granny panties, she is willing to have sex. I would not go by the underwear to say WHO is easier with sex. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:35am
"It is underwear, not a permanent tattoo. lol" ------------ So? It is still in really bad taste. I have no problem telling my kid the difference between good and bad taste. She can still go buy the stupid underwear or whatever it is (if big enough), but that is not going to stop me from teaching her what's what.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:36am

"NO NO NO! Having something actually in my butcrack/butcroch is NOT more comfortable than regular under." -------- Seriously! Those things are called butt floss for a reason.


A G-String would be butt floss lol

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:36am

springfever2013 wrote:
We are not speaking of these sayings on the OUTSIDE of their clothes on their crotches but on underwear that for the most part are ONLY seen by the person wearing it.</span></span></strong></p>

I don't care if my dd is the only one that knows what her underwear says. I don't want her feeling or thinking that way about herself.  Don't think any good can come of that.

 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:37am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p1.) What a woman wears while being raped is NOT admissible in court.  There are slim exceptions.  2.) A woman can change her mind at any time during any interaction. </p><p>Criminal Law 101. <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif" alt="Smile" title="Smile" border="0" /></p>

It's not what's said in court that converns me. It's what's said in the hallways of school, at the parties, and everywhere else these teens will be gossiping.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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