Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:17am

I have boys so this is really isn't an issue for me either, their plaid boxers are pretty boring. 

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:21am

springfever2013 wrote:
What I don't get Jam, is WHO is seeing this underwear?

Anyone that teen/tween shows them to, I would guess.  

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:22am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p>Girls undress in front of each other all the time. And then the trashy-underwear girls get talked about. Also, the girl knows she's wearing trashy sayings. Don't you think that might be reflected in get behavior?  Why would a nice girl want to wear these?</p>

Yes, very true.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:25am
I have boys and this IS an issue for me. I've spent their lifetimes teaching them to respect women. Even when they don't appear to respect themselves. What kind of message does it send to a teen boy when her mouth says "no" but her panties say "Dare You?"
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:26am

[quote=thardy2001]Have you ever worn a thong?  They're actually more comfortable than full underwear.  Try it.  I especially like that there are no panty lines to worry about.  I always wore them to work with biz suits.  Now, anytime, but especially for dress-up things and summer whites.quote]

 

NO NO NO!  Having something actually in my butcrack/butcroch is NOT more comfortable than regular under. NO NO NO!   lol

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:29am

From the article: <<But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.>>

This it the kind of nut job working with children.  My fear is not that my children will want to wear what everyone else is wearing after seeing same in the locker room or at slumber parties (hasn't happened yet, according to my oldest).  My fear is these over-reactions.  And I'm not sure why.  or if they really exist or just make for good quotables.  I wonder if that was behind the first mom who started the VS Petition against PINK underwear for young girls just because she was so very angry.  She's the problem IMO.

I won't buy these VS undergarments for young girls.  But I worry that some parents actually think that way.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:30am

springfever2013 wrote:
Not sure what a "nice" girl has to do with the type of underwear she wears lol.

IDK, I think if a teen has underwear that states she is sexually available, wouldn't that meant they were?  

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:32am

springfever2013 wrote:
Again, if they are all wearing the same types of underwear, WHO are they judging? Are you aware of the types of underwear that young girls and women wear? I surely do not wear granny panties and wouldn't imagine my teen would either lol.

So they are all wearing underwear that is like those mentioned in the op or a different type?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:33am

springfever2013 wrote:
Since she only has teen boys, just think it is kind of odd to do laundry for 2 teen girls. lol.

I recently did laundry for a teenage girl...on vacation.  I didn't think it was odd, just doing laundry.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:34am

bordwithyou wrote:
Why would I do laundry for two teenaged girls? As a favor to their mother who doesn't have a washing machine or dryer. I also allow a young man without a car or washer or dryer to use our facilities.

Shame on you for being nice.  Sheesh, doing something nice is now odd?  

PumpkinAngel

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