Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:40am
"NO NO NO! Having something actually in my butcrack/butcroch is NOT more comfortable than regular under." -------- Seriously! Those things are called butt floss for a reason.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:41am

bordwithyou wrote:
I have boys and this IS an issue for me. I've spent their lifetimes teaching them to respect women. Even when they don't appear to respect themselves. What kind of message does it send to a teen boy when her mouth says "no" but her panties say "Dare You?"

If your sons get to that point, then you have to speak with them.  Depending on their ages, they should not be close enough to read these underpants. 

I think Spring asked a good question ~ who is seeing these garments?  My answer ~ other girls only, of course.  As a teen, I loved trendy clothes.  When I had a choice, I naturally chose clothes other girls were wearing.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:41am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>So your kid comes home and says she saw some rockin' underwear in the p/e locker room that she wants.. Do you tell her the stuff is <em>trash</em>?</p>

If the underwear and sexual invitations on them, yes I would say that.  I have vetoed other types of clothing for my boys in the past, I don't have a problem saying no to items of clothing that carry those types of messages.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:43am

pumpkinangel wrote:
  IDK, I think if a teen has underwear that states she is sexually available, wouldn't that meant they were?  </p>

Not in the slightest.  If a boy actually reads them, it means he is sexually available. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:43am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;So your kid comes home and says she saw some rockin' underwear in the p/e locker room that she wants.. Do you tell her the stuff is &lt;em&gt;trash&lt;/em&gt;?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I'd be appalled that my daughter called someone else's undies *rockin'*. </p>

Yea, that would be a little weird.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:44am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">just_another_marla</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;My kid is at the age where I just hand over money so that she can pick out and buy her own clothing. If for some reason she stretched her imagination far and wide enough to think that I would allow a pair of underwear with a message like this on it in the house (I don't take lightly to the objectification of women), she'd probably change her mind at the pricetag because if I was able to impress anything onto her, it was intense frugality. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>A fad item they can buy with their own money.  Other manufacturers seem to be joining in.</p>

Yes about fad, Like Joe boxer was a few years ago.  My girls were still wearing cinderella and snow white then I think, Lol. 

 

 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:44am

rollmops2009 wrote:
"I do not think young girls SHOULD be wearing sexy underwear as I would not have let my young girl wear it." ----------- Sexy is one thing. I have no problem with sexy by a certain age, nice bras, flirty skirts etc. However, this particular line of underwear is marketed to very young girls, and besides, it is not "sexy," it is completely vulgar and hoochie-mama. I don't understand why vulgarity and bad taste are so often considered OK for kids, often on the very grounds that they are kids, so let them have "fun" or kids like bad taste or whatever justification people give.

 

Yes.  This.


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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:46am
I'll take your word on it about thongs Thardy, I've heard the same things from others who love them.

 

 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:46am

bordwithyou wrote:
I have boys and this IS an issue for me. I've spent their lifetimes teaching them to respect women. Even when they don't appear to respect themselves. What kind of message does it send to a teen boy when her mouth says "no" but her panties say "Dare You?"

That is a good point, I meant that it's not an issue as in they aren't into wearing women's underwear and thankfully they don't seem to be into wanting messages on their underwear.   

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:48am

jamblessedthree wrote:
  Yes about fad, Like Joe boxer was a few years ago.  My girls were still wearing cinderella and snow white then I think, Lol. </p>

As a teen, I happily joined in the camouflage trend (my favorite shorts!), Candies "platform" sandals, the gold and silver shoes trend (yes, it lasted about a year) and TUBE TOPS!  Always wore those under an unbuttoned blouse (it had to not match the color of the tube top, of course!)  I was conservative, ya know. ;)

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