Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:52pm

Interesting double standard, it's not okay for me to call tween underwear with sexual suggestions on them trashy but it's okay for others to call an entire store skank.  LoL

1. I never called ANY underwear with sexual suggestions trashy, everyone else did. I said it is not appropriate for young girls.

2. I laughed at the Rue 21 comment. Did I say I totally agreed? 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:52pm
"I realize this may be shocking to you, but my dd actually respects my opinion, including my good opinion of her. Besides, it is not about her not wearing it necessarily, more a question of giving her straight info. Your dd does not live with you anymore Roll...correct?" ----------- I am talking about when she was a teen and living under my roof, although even now she seems to value and respect my opinion.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:53pm

Well, it looks as if the Moms of young girls have spoken and VS has recalled the line.  I'm glad.  I don't think the entire problem is that the line was aimed at "young girls;" that just makes the product especially heinous.  The idea that the line was considered appropriate for any age just says volumes about our culture and the level of vulgarity we're willing to accept.  The marketplace has spoken on this one, and I am very happy with the outcome.

I personally agree with them for young girls that it is not appropriate. The "entire" line is NOT vulgar. I guess this is coming from someone who has never shopped at either VS or in the Pink part of the store. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:55pm

The first part is a double standard, since many of us only have teenage boys currently we of course (lol!!) can't speak for teenage girls.  Of course it's okay to speak for teenage boys because of the past, however that only works in one direction because we can't speak for teenage girls.  I guess I skipped all those years growing up, lol.  

The rest....I have no clue.

I DO have a nephew that spends A LOT of time at my house. I am not "immune" to teenage boys of "today". 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:56pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Adults are not kids, why do you keep trying to compare them?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Exactly and that is why young girls should not be wearing those underwear</span></strong></p>

So then why do you keep bringing adults into the debate?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:57pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, it looks as if the Moms of young girls have spoken and VS has recalled the line.  I'm glad.  I don't think the entire problem is that the line was aimed at "young girls;" that just makes the product especially heinous.  The idea that the line was considered appropriate for any age just says volumes about our culture and the level of vulgarity we're willing to accept.  The marketplace has spoken on this one, and I am very happy with the outcome.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I personally agree with them for young girls that it is not appropriate. The "entire" line is NOT vulgar. I guess this is coming from someone who has never shopped at either VS or in the Pink part of the store. </span></strong></p>

Yeah, the entire line of the sexuality-suggestive stuff was vulgar.  And much as you might like to think that you invented sexuality, I was shopping VS before you had permanent teeth.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:57pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">The more of this thread I read, the more I'm thinking it must be the type of "guys" that SG knows. You know, the "manly man"? Yuck.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Huh? Compared to what? </span></strong></p>

Compared to the type of guys the rest of us are married to and trying to raise.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:59pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>I'm surprised that store is still around, I've been in it before when I was a kid but I won't step near it now, Stupid stuff and when the kids ask to go in I just say I won't waste my time there!  The stuff is hilarious and it seriously wouldn't surprise me if those salmons tshirts that savcal's familiar with aren't found in there, Lol.  It's taken this thread full circle really, Some have that pick up sense for more sexually excplicit things than I, Now we can move on...</p>

Actually the salmon t-shirts are, I believe, an exclusive product of Friggemall Industries aka The Bob and Tom Show.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 2:59pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I'm not even going there with your dh and possibly enjoying sexting.  </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">EXCUSE ME? That was really uncalled for and disgusting to speak about a grown man like that.</span></strong></p>

If you read my comments you might note that I said I wasn't going to discuss it, depsite the fact that you keep claiming that "all" teenage boys should enjoy sexting and you would be "worried" if they didn't.  We keep saying that people shouldn' enjoy sexting, you are the one who is worried that the teenage boys are not.

But hey...way to take the comment of context, again.  

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:01pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Arial; color:#0e0e0e">When did you say your son was disappointed Bord? Not in that first post. </span></p>

I said that my son in this post to Thardy : "Welcome to high school in the 21st century. We aren't the kind of people to try to ruin a young girl's life over a lapse in judgment. Usually all it takes is for the boy to tell the girl that he's deleted the picture and that he's disappointed in her for sending it."

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