Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:29pm

I said that my son in this post to Thardy : "Welcome to high school in the 21st century. We aren't the kind of people to try to ruin a young girl's life over a lapse in judgment. Usually all it takes is for the boy to tell the girl that he's deleted the picture and that he's disappointed in her for sending it."

Missed that and if I DID see it, I would have NEVER guessed you were speaking of your son. That was not very clear.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:30pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>That's where we differ, Jambles. Because I have taught my kids that the exercise of their sexuality is indeed a moral issue. Frankly, if my 12 year old thought it was cool to adorn her crotch with messages advertising it's availability, I'd feel like I'd failed in the instilling basic values department.</blockquote></p><p> </p><p>THIS.</p>

Yes agree with SAvcal & Bord.  And if my chld brings home slutty clothes whether it's underwear or a something that is too short or whatever, I don't care if she paid for it with her own money.  It would be returned to the store.  Jam doesn't approve of these clothes until she has to join in with Spring & defend her position.  Now it's great to buy clothes a parent doesn't approve of as long as they picked it out themselves and bought it with their own money???  That's pretty sad.  I have no problem setting limits with what my children may wear.  Luckily they don't want to wear a skirt that is up to their a** or underwear that says come take me now, etc.  Actually I don't consider that luck.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:33pm
"Gotcha so you can't really tell him what to do then." ----------- did she, or anyone else, claim that she could?
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:35pm

No, no you don't.  You have completely misunderstood despite it being explained to you several times.  Get your mind out of the gutter.  That might help.

Ummm...you DID say sexting correct? 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:38pm
Spice Girl, you ally do need calm down. Again, it was YOU who mentioned your husband..nobody e. I am not even sure what your all worked up about.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:39pm

Upset maybe that maybe the girl he knows would do that but appalled and a little scared? Come on.

Even if he couldn't find it in him to be scared and appalled on a moral level, you'd think that the possible repercussions if he'd been found with the picture on his phone would be enough to freak him out quite a bit.


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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:40pm

How would I know?  You're the one who takes your 9 year old to Spencer's and finds it hilarious.

Ummm...no...you should re-read that. I said I have gone to go in there and then said, umm....no (meaning we turned around realizing that the 9 yr old should not be in there). There are things in there that are perfectly fine though for any age and there is a spot for adult things but I would rather not have to explain some things yet. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:40pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Can you not read? "He's an adult. He can wear what he wants. But I would definitely express my displeasure and tell him I thought he was trashy for wearing it. "</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Gotcha so you can't really tell him what to do then. </span></strong></p>

Ummm no. Have I ever posited that I treat my husband like my child?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:41pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">NO.  Why is that you think those of us without teenage girls can't speak for shopping for underwear but you can speak for ALL teenage boys on their emotions?  Yea, double standard much?</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Nope, I met my dh when he was a teenager lol. </strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Again, I didn't say anything that you are claiming, nothing I have said on this subject is similar to what you are saying. Zip.  I still don't think it's funny that you think a proper appropriate response to inappropriate action is funny and cause for concern but I guess my standards are different?  I don't know, help me out here...why do you think this response is cause for concern?   I think you really need to look at your reaction to this situation.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>You are really making no sense. Can you answer the questions I asked about PT's in our parents and grandparents days? I guess they just didn't have "morals" either like these "bad" girls who wear these underwear?</strong></p>

Well then, those of us with only boys were teenage girls once, right?  So there goes that point, again.  <<Springy regrets bringing her dh into the discussion so I'm editing the fact that I'm not going to talk about it in the context of this debate.  Yikes>>  Pass on that.

Perhaps if you read my comments, I would make more sense?  You keep asking me questions and making comments about things I never said.  I have no idea what you are talking about with PT's and our parents and grandparents...I have already asked you what that heck you were talking about and you never answered.  

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:42pm

What does knowing my dh as a teen, PKA,  have to do with him sexting which you clearly stated? 

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