Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 4:11pm

PKA...the ONLY time I brought my dh into the convo was to talk about teenage boys, NOT about sexting which you conveniently added. 

Since you don't want to have a debate, I guess you are done then. Everything I have said was clear and none of my questions were answered so that pretty much seals the deal on this thread. 

Have a lovely evening :)

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 4:14pm

"Yeah, and then she mentioned MY husband." ----- Actually she said that she didn't want to "go there" in regards to your husband. YOU are the one that brought your husband into the debate, and are now trying to twist it. You can become a contortionist, it won't change the FACT that YOU brought your husband in, not anyone else.

How much does PKA charge for her class? Smile

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 4:30pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p>PKA...the ONLY time I brought my dh into the convo was to talk about teenage boys, NOT about sexting which you conveniently added. </p><p>Since you don't want to have a debate, I guess you are done then. Everything I have said was clear and none of my questions were answered so that pretty much seals the deal on this thread. </p><p>Have a lovely evening :)</p>

It wasn't conveniently added, sexting was the conversation in regards to teenage boys.  You brought in the behavior of "all" teenage boys while you were loling about the response to sexting that was the topic of conversation.  You claimed to know what teenage boys were thinking because of dating as a teenager.  It was the topic of conversation, you seem to have lost the thread somewhere along the ways.

I don't want to debate your dh, no...I have said that from the beginning when you brought him into the discussion.  Do you really want to debate your dh in the context of sexting and what the proper response of a teenage boy should have been so you wouldn't be "worried"?  A response you haven't answered btw, despite being asked numerous times.

What questions would you like answered that I haven't answered...fire away, I'm not running away.  

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 4:33pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">"Yeah, and then she mentioned MY husband." ----- Actually she said that she didn't want to "go there" in regards to your husband. YOU are the one that brought your husband into the debate, and are now trying to twist it. You can become a contortionist, it won't change the FACT that YOU brought your husband in, not anyone else.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">How much does PKA charge for her class? <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif" alt="Smile" title="Smile" border="0" /></span></strong></p>

Oh shucks...I'm only a student, not a teacher like you.  Wink

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 4:56pm

lifespeachy wrote:
Sav, I just realized that I quoted you, in response to SG.... oops.

'sokay. I interpreted it as an error. No harm done. :)

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 5:25pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
You are reading things that aren't there cantbewrong, I am a pretty conservative shopper even when I take my kids along, I do realize however that when they get their jobs and start spending their own $$ my say so in what they buy will certainly become littler, What is your problem with that? And at what point do your own children know that decisions become their own to make too? I am pretty fortunate too, My own kids taste in clothes is nice. They do have some leopard print undies but I won't freak if, with their own money, they chose to buy undies with the word lucky on them one of these years, There is no basis to assume that will lead to some promiscuous behavior, In fact those thoughts and ideas come from names you say you agree with so please do match the correct posts to the correct posters, Thanks.

My problem with my children spending their own money or my money on clothes I don't approve of would mean they get rid of them.  When they are adults, they can buy whatever they want.  I never said I had extremely stringent standards, but there are lines that if they bought something (like any clothes that had sexualy explicit words on them, even underwear, or a skirt that was so short you could see their private areas, then no they would not wear them--I wouldn't care where the money came from.  I never said I freaked out over clothing, but I am a parent who has standards and Jam I never thought you were a parent who had no standards who would throw up their hands and say, to a 16 year old for instance, that they could buy anything at all, no matter how much you disapproved of it, if it is with their money.  What I agreed with is that parents should hvae discussions with their children and discuss what kind of standards of clothes are appropriate and which you would not approve of.  I do not think that wearing certain clothes would lead to promiscuious behavior but I think my daughters should think about what kind of image they want to portray and if they really want to wear something extremely risque why they would not be ok, including that it would be against their school clothes policy, which they have to follow, even if like Spring says that "everyone else is doing it/wearing it.  That has never been a good parenting model to follow.

So if you want to clarify, would you allow either of your daughters to wear the underwear discussed in this thread--the kind that makes sexually suggestive remarks, not the "cute" kind that Spring is debating about.  At what age would you approve your dd to wear underwear this suggestive or allow them to wear, although you wouldn't buy them?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:41pm

bordwithyou wrote:
Sorry, receiving a picture of a woman in a bra and panties with the words "call me" over her vulva IS a sexual invitation. That invite may later be withdrawn. But it does make it a little more complicated to tell your sons about how "No means no" when they get invites like these.

I'd be a LOT more concerned about a teen girl sending child pornography to my teenaged boy's phone, making him vulnerable to prosecution and a sex offender label the rest of his life, than about any mixed messages about her availability for sex.

Sexually explicit photos (and pictures of a girl in panties with suggestive statements on her underwear would absolutely count) of teens under the age of 18 is ILLEGAL with a capital "Go Directly to Jail".  Making them is illegal. Sending them is illegal.  POSSESSING THEM is illegal.  Even if the maker, sender and possessor are underaged.

I would be blocking the sender's number and taking out a restraining order against further incidents.  This is some serious SERIOUS stuff and it can destroy a teen's life without that teen ever having done anything. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 9:44pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
Yeah, mine is frugal too. Also, she thankfully has decent taste and always did. She had a brief glitter phase at 3 or so, but that was about it.

If a child must go through a glitter phase, 3 is perfect. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 10:17pm

Marla's thread summary:

Teenage boys only think about sex, but teenage girls don't, so therefore seemingly innocent phrases splattered all over their underwear is cute.

Sexting is bad, except when it's funny, unless it's unsolicited, then it's hilarious.

There's more back-and-forth action on this board than in any game of tennis that I've ever seen.

Marla's "ain't nobody got time for responding to each post individually" omnipost:

"Since before you had permanent teeth" - LOL for real. 

I agree with the eyeroll to the PINK line. One of my husband's coworkers' wives wears PINK almost exclusively. I've always found it mildly disturbing. At a recent business gathering, I had to refrain myself from saying, "Hey girl, luv your double entendre. That's SUPER clever. Can I see your tribal tramp stamp tattoo?"

I think between the trip to Spencer's and VS, I'm just going to continue to stay out of malls. They seem to be no place to take a child.

Marla's Fortune Cookie:

Most of us were just a broken condom incident away from becoming teen parents.

 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 11:32pm

I will admit here that when I first read, in this thread, that it was the PINK line, I thought it was Pink the singer's designs.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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