Sexy Underwear for Teens

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Sexy Underwear for Teens
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:44pm

I only have boys, so while I have an opinion on this, wanted to see how the moms of teen girls feel about store's such as Victoria's Secret carrying lines of sexy underwear that are for college aged girls, but appeal to a teen audience.  They were recently targeted by moms for their "Bright Young Things" spring break line.  From Time.com: 

But should anyone be walking around in undies that declare “Dare You,” “Call Me” or “Feeling Lucky?” like some of the missives printed on the manufacturer’s spring-break inventory? That’s certainly a matter of personal taste — for adults. But for young girls, “This speaks to the idea that girls have a fantasy of being raped, that women on some level are asking for it,” says Dana Udall-Weiner, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist who works with girls on body image.

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/29/bright-young-things-victorias-secrets-line-under-fire/#ixzz2PKwj8Dqz

Would you let your teen wear suggestive underwear?  Do you think that teen girls have a right to feel confident and sexy, or are they getting the wrong message from retailers?

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Registered: 03-27-2013
Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:35pm

No, no you don't.  You have completely misunderstood despite it being explained to you several times.  Get your mind out of the gutter.  That might help.

Ummm...you DID say sexting correct? 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:33pm
"Gotcha so you can't really tell him what to do then." ----------- did she, or anyone else, claim that she could?
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:30pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>That's where we differ, Jambles. Because I have taught my kids that the exercise of their sexuality is indeed a moral issue. Frankly, if my 12 year old thought it was cool to adorn her crotch with messages advertising it's availability, I'd feel like I'd failed in the instilling basic values department.</blockquote></p><p> </p><p>THIS.</p>

Yes agree with SAvcal & Bord.  And if my chld brings home slutty clothes whether it's underwear or a something that is too short or whatever, I don't care if she paid for it with her own money.  It would be returned to the store.  Jam doesn't approve of these clothes until she has to join in with Spring & defend her position.  Now it's great to buy clothes a parent doesn't approve of as long as they picked it out themselves and bought it with their own money???  That's pretty sad.  I have no problem setting limits with what my children may wear.  Luckily they don't want to wear a skirt that is up to their a** or underwear that says come take me now, etc.  Actually I don't consider that luck.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:29pm

I said that my son in this post to Thardy : "Welcome to high school in the 21st century. We aren't the kind of people to try to ruin a young girl's life over a lapse in judgment. Usually all it takes is for the boy to tell the girl that he's deleted the picture and that he's disappointed in her for sending it."

Missed that and if I DID see it, I would have NEVER guessed you were speaking of your son. That was not very clear.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:27pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yeah, the entire line of the sexuality-suggestive stuff was vulgar.  And much as you might like to think that you invented sexuality, I was shopping VS before you had permanent teeth.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I did see it Bord and it didn't look much different than the regular part of the Pink line. Again, not appropriate for young girls.</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Ummm...no, I would NEVER day that Bord and I am surprised that you would have ever or do shop at VS.</span></strong></p>

It doesn't look different except for the part we are discussing, which would be the sexually suggestive phrases on them.  Is that really all that hard to understand?

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:27pm

If you read my comments you might note that I said I wasn't going to discuss it, depsite the fact that you keep claiming that "all" teenage boys should enjoy sexting and you would be "worried" if they didn't.  We keep saying that people shouldn' enjoy sexting, you are the one who is worried that the teenage boys are not.

But hey...way to take the comment of context, again.  

YOU just took that out of context. I NEVER ONCE said that I was worried that the teenage boys were not sexting. I would NEVER approve of sexting either by a male or female and I am QUITE PLEASED that my teen thinks anyone that does that is STUPID. I said I was surprised of the reaction that he would be appalled and scared.

There was NO reason to throw in my dh who is an ADULT, not a 17 yr. old boy into the discussion. That was quite personal so I would appreciate it if you take it down. 

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:24pm
Calm down Spice Girl, you are the one who brought your husband into it. PKA said she's not going there.
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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:23pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Yeah, the entire line of the sexuality-suggestive stuff was vulgar.  And much as you might like to think that you invented sexuality, I was shopping VS before you had permanent teeth.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I did see it Bord and it didn't look much different than the regular part of the Pink line. Again, not appropriate for young girls.</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Ummm...no, I would NEVER day that Bord and I am surprised that you would have ever or do shop at VS.</span></strong></p>

Why?  I have and do shop at VS and have been doing so since the 80's when the Limited Group purchased them.  I worked in a mall back in those days, a long time ago.  LoL.

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:22pm

Actually the salmon t-shirts are, I believe, an exclusive product of Friggemall Industries aka The Bob and Tom Show.

Nope, not near me

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Wed, 04-03-2013 - 3:22pm

springfever2013 wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Compared to the type of guys the rest of us are married to and trying to raise.</span></p><p style="text-align:left"><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>Please explain the differences since you know so much......</span></span></strong></p>

You could start with re-reading the comments you made about sexting and the reactions of teen boys to sexting.

PumpkinAngel

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