Should parents drink with teens?

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Should parents drink with teens?
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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 11:18am

How do you help a teenager handle alcohol responsibly? If new research is to believed, the answer is make sure they don't touch the stuff. (From an article on CBSNews.com)

"Kids need parents to be parents and not drinking buddies," the study's lead researcher, Dr. Barbara J. McMorris, of the School of Nursing at the University of Minnesota, said in a statement.

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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:11pm
parents are childrens' first and primary teachers so we are already teaching behaviors like responsible drinking without having to offer it to them. 21 is the legal age, i don't like seeing teenagers drinking, i see it on FB sometimes and cringe.

 

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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:17pm
Do you think it's an either/or? The question is worded stupidly. I do not have to drink with my kids" in order to teach them how to drink.
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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:28pm

I think like most things it is a gradual thing.

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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 12:56pm
Thanks for your comments. I personally don't think it's either / or and you're right, we don't have to drink with them to teach them. How old are your kids? I'm interested to know how you are teaching them (or have taught them) ...
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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 1:00pm
Thanks for posting! I made some mistakes with my 2 during their minor years and changed drastically with my 2 s/sons who are 8 - 10 years younger, They are now all over 21 but their ways with alcohol are all similar to one another.
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Sat, 04-30-2011 - 1:43pm
My kids are 15 and 19. We have alcoholism in the family so I have taught them from early on that they may be genetically at risk. We have volunteered together at the local soup kitchen since the boys were todlers and they have seen people they know die of the effects of chronic alcoholism. At the same time, we have alcohol in the home to drink and to cook with. They have seen us have a cocktail or a glass of wine or two or a few beers socially. When we are in Europe, where we have to go frequently because of my job, they have been served wine or cider, and they have tasted it, no big deal. We went to a family wedding this winter and the older one tried champagne for the first time.