A sidebar about slang and trends

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A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:55pm
Well, I have no clue about most of the slang terms you mentioned. My mom was/is totally unhip. She didnt know any slang terms of the time. However, my mom always knew what I was doing and I couldnt put anything past her. I dont see how one thing has anything to do with the other.
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:58pm
I"m not hip, but I guess I'll have to become more so in the next few years.

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there? Dance where ecstasy is available?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used? Yes to the first, no to the last two

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools? Oral sex?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean? The owner has killed someone?

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 3:19pm
I think it certainly can be connected. If I overheard someone refer to say, one of my dd's friends as a *freak*-that could mean she is just an odd girl or wierd in that person's opinion. It could also mean she is a big $lut and I'd best be careful about my dd hanging out with her. Or I could see a clueless parent allowing their child to attend a Rave without truly understanding what a Rave is. I'm not saying a parent HAS to be up on the latest terms in order to know what their teen is up to-I'm sure there are tons of terms out there I have NO clue about either. I'm just saying it doesnt pay to be completely out of the loop either.

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 3:28pm
I'm actually kind of scared of the future with teenagers in a language I don't understand perfectly and probably never will, My Swedish is pretty good at this point and it is my main work language, but there is just no good way for me to pick up the swear words, let alone the teen slang words. I can keep up pretty well with the English stuff through magazines, MTV and online activities, but I just don't know yet how to figure out the Swedish stuff. Maybe, with any luck, the Swedish teenagers will just adopt the American slang :-).

OTOH, I have actually informed my nieces and nephews that it is up to them to teach my kids the American slang and swear words (naturally officially without my knowledge :-)), so that they don't end up being too unhip during visits to the U.S....

Laura

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 4:10pm
I don't much when it comes to kids' slang -- what I know, I learned from watching TV.

I hope my dh is more "in tune" given that he works with teens.

I do agree with you that knowledge is power.
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 6:02pm
I'll give it a shot; I may get some wrong, or more likely, use outdated definitions. My only child is 6, so I'm remembering my own youth here, and that of various nieces and cousins ...

>>If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?<<

A "rave" is essentially a dance, but it's also somewhat more than that. They are done rather like concerts with DJ's, in that they are put on by promoters, and usually take place in venues that are not permanently designed as dance clubs (old warehouses, etc.) Raves started out as "no-alcohol" events; which would be good, except that the alcohol consumption has mostly been replaced by recreational drug use. Whether or not I would allow my child to attend would have a lot to do with where the event was being held (safe building? on-the-ball police dept?"), and who he was attending with. It would also have a lot to do with my knowledge of the child himself, and how he was likely to act in such a situation.

>>As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used? <<

"Crystal" and "meth" are the same thing; methamphetamine, which anyone can cook up from household ingredients. "X" is short for ecstacy, which is MDMA (a compound that resembles Prozac in action), "roofies" is a nickname for Rohypnol (sp?) which is a veterinary tranquilizer, this one is known as a date-rape drug. Meth is smoked or eaten as tabs, ecstacy and roofies are most commonly added to liquids and drunk.

<< What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools? >>

Oral sex is a lot more popular with younger kids than it used to be, but girls are doing most of the giving and getting very little for their trouble; except for venereal disease.

Teenage pregnancy is down, but diseases are up.

<< What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean? >>

OK, I go back 20 years at least on this one. My understanding is that it signifies a friend or boyfriend who was killed in gang warfare. The person with the tattoo is presumed to also be a member of the gang.

How did I do? I try not to lose track of all this stuff; if you know what to look for, it can be as obvious as the side of a barn, but if you don't know, you can walk right by and never know. I avoided the drug scene when I was young, but knowing what I was avoiding made it a lot easier.

Oh, btw, I often use "freakin'" when I'm trying to avoid using another word that is rather more vulgar. Norman Mailer used "fugg". Context is everything.


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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 6:14pm
Dh and I realized we were getting on in age when we heard some kids describe something as *sick* and my little brother had to translate what they meant to us.

I never thought I'd lose touch. Then again, I never thought I'd ever hear Madonna's "Like a Virgin" as Muzak, but found myself discovering that it has, in fact, been instrumentalized for easy listening to calm the mall shoppers.

Ugh.

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 7:23pm
i cant necessarily quote my kids, but when i hear them, i know what they are talking about. a lot of what my kids used to talk was referred to as "junk". like they were "all that", phat, fly, rad, cool, groovy, hip, happenin', kickin', the bomb, the mac daddy. did i do ok???

when i worked in the school cafeteria, i picked up stuff as well as hanging with my own kids. dd and i were sitting on the glider on the front porch when she was about ten years old, when my dh said something to her, and she held up her hand, rolled her eyes and told him to talk to the hand. i tore her little tail up. he had no clue what was going on, but i got it, and she never did it again!!LOL. it was kinda funny. we laugh about it now.

do you know what gonga(sp) is? i used it at work, and even the young girls were telling me i made it up, because they never heard of it. i told them, they just werent cool moms like me. LOL.

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 7:30pm
LOL, Ganja, aka mary jane? Sure I know what that is!

Dj

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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 8:01pm
along those lines, here is another obscure one...has anyone ever seen bumper stickers that say "SMP"??? Know what it means?

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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