A sidebar about slang and trends

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A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 11:58am
Sometimes I think this can be one of the shortcomings of having children late. This whole thread I've been suppressing the urge to roll my eyes in true teenager fashion! LOL (Hey, it wasn't that long ago for me) My mom always said it was much easier for her when my older brother (who she had when she was 19) was a teenager than when my younger brother and I were teenagers. (We were born when she was in her 30s) The age gap can be hard! BTW I wouldn't recommend using the word "hip" in front of your teenagers!
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 12:12pm
My dd is 12 and used the word hip to me. And I had my kids in my mid 30's. I think the difference for me is I have 2 much younger brothers with whom I spend a lot of time. They are always very up on the latest music, slang, trends, etc. and are naturally *cool*, lol. So the age thing just isnt an issue for me, most people assume I am a lot younger than I am anyway. I dont try to hide my age by any means, I just look younger and dont act like a typical *suburban mom* (however they are supposed to act!). Just because one is an older parent doesnt mean they have to be completely out of the loop.

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 12:21pm
I was just saying its naturally easier to stay in the loop when you're younger. Not that its impossible.
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 12:45pm
Ah, it appears that there are variations and regional differences in regard to this one, though everyone seems to agree that they are related to street gangs. I only knew that one from something I'd read; I've never actually known someone who had one.

Out of curiousity, I just noodled around on the web on this topic. I found several variants:

... from a Gary, IN news story ...

"An anonymous source at Gary Job Corps Center said one of the ways to distinguish a gang member is by the teardrop tattoo. A hollow teardrop indicates the loss of a friend in a gang. If the teardrop is colored in, the individual with the tattoo was either present at a criminal act or committed it themselves."

... or from a trial record in TX ...

Q. et's start with the teardrop tatoo . What is the significance or meaning of that tatoo as has been your experience as a gang intelligence officer?

A. . . . There are several meanings to the teardrop. . . . One is for loss of a homeboy or friend. One particular reason is for how many times you've been to the jail. And one time it is noted as this is the last time I'll ever cry.

... a quote from a criminal defense atty in Reno, NV ...

“He had a teardrop tattoo, and you don’t get those in Cracker Jacks. You have to kill someone, and the defense needs to show there was a lot of violence with that gang,” Lichter said."

... from a newspaper in WA state ...

"He shuffled into the courtroom Wednesday, chained at the waist and ankles and sporting a teardrop tattoo at the corner of his right eye that he got after the slaying. The tattoo means he has killed someone."

I also found a reference to it symbolizing jail time; that one was in a student fiction-writing entry from a school near Los Angeles.

I suspect that we are ALL correct on this one. It looks like it could mean any of those things, depending on where you are.











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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 12:50pm
A variation popular at my university (and several other large universities in the South at that time, to judge by what I saw in bars) was to do it with someone, or rather, on top of someone. Looked quite a lot like sex.
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 12:53pm
Well, just to guess ... the first word is a verb, and the second word is "my"?

That seems odd for a bumper sticker; too anatomically correct. I'd be expecting SMD or SMC. Is it on the sticker in small print?

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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 1:37pm
Right. Hey, I got carded at a club in South Beach a few months ago, and have been mistaken for a student several times at the high school (and I'm old!)so people assume I'm a lot younger than I am too, but I still don't think my kids want me to pretend that I'm in their era.
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 1:40pm
Oh, well I never saw that variation! Mostly it looked like typical Frat boy nonsense, complete with arms and legs extended upwards a la Animal House.
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 2:07pm
I think it might be something that is only well-known in the skateboarder/snowboarder circle. My youngest brother is a snowboarder (could have gone pro at one point but he decided against it) and he is the one who told me what it means. Its a sticker that just says *SMP* on it, no other words. Technical meaning is *Sell More Product*. The subversive meaning is *Smoke More Pot*....LOL

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Dj

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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 2:17pm
If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there? *A. My ds has gone to raves since he was 19yo, he's 24 now. He shares everything with his dad and me. One time, he came home covered in spit, I wasn't too happy ... he's old enough to know about that crap, jeez.

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used? *A. Yes, and it saddens me.

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools? *A. oral sex. I've talked about this with my daughters, both entering sophomore year, till the cows come home. One of my friends called me 7 years ago all upset that while doing laundry had found a note in her 13yo dd's jeans ... the dd's soon to be 14yo boyfriend wrote that he could not wait for his birthday "BJ" and how happy he was that she had decided to do it. This boy had been a welcome visitor to their home for two months. OMG ... my girls were just 8yo then. I felt true terror over the loss of innocence my friend experienced that day.

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean? *A. I'm at a loss ... omg, is it bad?

Linda





 

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