A sidebar about slang and trends

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A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 7:01pm
I wasn't thinking you were refering to me. Actually I was just kinda joking around. Since I am conserative and live in a small town. People assume that means you are somehow totally ignorant of the rest of the world. I have traveled more than many so called city folks. I wasn't offended at all. I thought it was fun.
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Sat, 08-02-2003 - 9:50am
I would never let my child attend a rave, though yours is an adult, so what can you do, I suppose. I used to attend them in college (I'm pretty young - 29) and there is nothing going on there but drugs, no matter what you're told. It is common to have someone walk up to you and say "hey what are you doing?" and they mean "what are you on?" A conservative estimate would be that 85% of the people are high on something stronger than marijuana.

The "ecstasy" they sell is a pill with a much cheaper mixture of any or all of the following: heroin, cocaine, speed, LSD, PCP.

I attended a funeral for someone who died because of raves and drugs. He was 20.

I bet his mom thought she knew him well enough to know he would be okay too.

 

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Sat, 08-02-2003 - 11:09am
Ahhhh! LOL~ thanks for enlightening me~
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Sat, 08-02-2003 - 3:18pm
LOL, I just thought it meant "smoke more pot" or something! --->Dawn
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Sat, 08-02-2003 - 3:19pm
LOL, guess I was at least half right after all. --->Dawn
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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 8:13am
And what about your mom? She knew you would be ok right?

When a kid gets old enough to go and do things on their own, a parent doesn't have a lot to say about it really. Oh sure, I can say I wish you wouldn't do that but in the end, it's their decision. All you can do it hope and pray they come home safely.

Sue..whose dd is off to "Warp Tour" at the Pontiac Silverdome today.

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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 9:08am
I could feel insulted, but do not, rather I'm amused. It's not like I've never been exposed to the seeding side of life ... I have btdt, I was a teenager in the late 60's early 70's. I am quite aware of what goes on when out of mom and dad's jurisdiction. What my ds is is this ... wait, I need not convince anyone of my ds's virtues or lack of, he has done that all on his own. Unless he submits to demands for urine testing ... you're right, I have no idea what he is doing at those raves other than being with friends and moshing.

Linda

 

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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 4:14pm
Regarding the Freak/slut insult: I wouldn't try to keep my dd away from a girl I heard called that. Why? Because I remember adoslescence and even though the terms have changed (such as "freak") I'll bet that something about girls has stayed the same; that girls sometimes call each other sluts for the most minor offences, such as both having a crush on the same boy. Just because the girls whisper "she's such a (whatever)" to each other doesn't mean she really is. They may angry with her for silly, non-sexual girl-reasons. Or maybe wishful or disappointed boys may be lying about her because they WISH she was a slut or want to punish her for being unavailable.
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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 4:16pm
Spot on! And how do I know? Because most of these so called recent slang terms are older (sometimes MUCH older) than the kids using them.
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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 4:21pm
One hardly needs to be cool to be knowledgable about these things. One only needs a subscription to Time or Newsweek and to watch CNN sometimes, because the ,mainstream media does news reports on these things whenever it's a slow news day (or week).

I've never been to a rave, but after myriad Newsweek//Time/other magazines/countless newspaper articles/countless TV news stories I think I'd have an easy time spotting one.

You have to willfully ignore all the "lifestyle" and "parenting" articles in mainstream media not to know about these things.

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