A sidebar about slang and trends

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A sidebar about slang and trends
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Thu, 07-31-2003 - 2:44pm
Since I was ridiculed for using slang, I started thinking about what parents *keep up on* when it comes to their kids. How many parents are in the know about what slang terms mean, what is *in*, what goes on in the subculture of teens, etc? So I was wanting to conduct a bit of a poll...

If your child asked to go to a *rave*, would you know what it was? Would you know what it involves and what may or may not go on there?

As far as todays drug market, do you know what the terms *Crystal*, *X*, *roofies* or *meth* mean? Do you know which drugs are most popular for teens and how they are obtained/used?

What sexual trends have been taking place in junior high schools?

What does a teardrop tattoo under ones cheek mean?

These are all pretty basic and random, but I was just wondering how much parents today keep themselves informed about the possible scenarios for their children? I personally believe knowledge is power and I prefer to keep myself informed about stuff. And having Btdt on a LOT of teen issues, I try to keep myself informed in advance of what may or may not happen.

My dd has said I am a *hip* mom-not in the way of trying to be her friend, but in the almost frustrating way (for her) of KNOWING what goes on in her world. She cant get much by me, and I intend to keep it that way.


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Sun, 08-03-2003 - 9:55pm
i'll have to mention it to my ds1 and see what he says. he trys to hide so much from me, it should be quite funny what he comes up with not knowing i know already. hes a skateboarder and is quite "in the know" about that stuff. LOL
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 8:03am
Yes!! I wouldn't keep my dd away from anyone called a slut either. All heresay ... embellished accounts, whispered by one then two then on and on until it's a front page story. Usually started by the spurned "steady" or the boy out to impress his home-boys.

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 11:33am
The fact is, though, that once the mainstream media figures it out, it's pretty much old news. I get such a kick out of news articles that talk about the "new trend" and then go on to talk about ecstacy. Kids have been doing "x" for years. Hardly new. The drugs the OP listed are all old-news. Not a one of them is "recent." How about Special K?

Raves are pretty much over. Sure they're around. But they are in no way as popular as they were in the early to mid 90's. And you find more pre-teens there these days which pretty much guarantees the teenagers aren't there.

(On a side note, to the moms who said they would trust their kids to go to a Rave. Have you heard about the recently passed Rave Act? Your child could be fined just for being at a party where someone else was caught with drugs. And the owner of the property, even a private home, can be fined $25K if someone is caught with drugs on the property.)

When I was a kid, we called pot "Gary" As in, who's picking up Gary? Who has the money for Gary? etc. We knew enough to know our parents knew all the names for marijuanna. We watched the news.

I don't claim to be a "hip" mom who knows everything. But I do know that if the media knows about it - it's old news. The drug culture is underground for a reason.


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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 11:45am
Well I KNOW that, I was simply using it as an analogy.

Dj

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 3:54pm
Perhaps some people have a hard time when they get older keeping their toes in the water but I don't think age is always the reason. There is a "cultural awareness" factor. If you are a consumer of mass media and invest time watching the same kind of TV that the kids are, you can be very up to date, if you so chose. (That is not to say "up to date" is the same thing as being hip. Being hip is a little bit tough, a little subversive in fact, more of a "I dare not shop at the mall where the masses go" and a "My favorite band has not caught on yet and I sure hope it doesn't become Top 40-I'd rather die" and sometimes even a "Should I bathe this week?" sort of attitude.) You must make an effort to observe the culture and not everyone does that, nor do they want to. (Work and raising families are a big distraction.) A lot of people are perfectly content to stick to the stuff that was happening during their late teens/early twenties. Hence, the Flock of Seagulls continues to tour.

My dh and I go to a lot of concerts and we see what the kids are wearing, what they are listening to, how they pass the time. We have some teenage babysitters who were hopelessly out of the loop because their mother had sheltered them. Now they are in high school and have caught on a little. It has been funny watching them go from being Jimmy Buffet fans (their father's favorite) to Nelly and Dave Mathews fans. My dh scores the concert tickets for them because he has good connections. So although neither dh nor I have any body piercings other than my ears, we have a healthy sense of what is going on culturally for the 15-22 set despite the fact we are in our late 30s. I don't think we will ever be completely out of touch because we are still acting like teenagers ourselves most of the time. And I have friends (who have not left the 80s, who don't mind going to those aforementioned Flock of Seagulls shows) who are going to be in BIG BIG trouble when their kids hit that high school age. But not necessarily because of their age. (More because they are BORING. Just kidding.)

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:08pm


Does that mean I have to replace all my CDs when my dd is a teenager?
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:10pm
I was never "hip" and have no chance of ever being "hip," but I do hope to be "up to date."
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:10pm
What about ME going to a rave?

Why are we talking like we are all ninety years old here? Many of us are still young enough to be participating in these types of events if we choose. Sheesh, my dh still regularly attends Metallica concerts and the Warped Tour; he's following Radiohead all around the country. (I'm hopeful he's not doing meth or E while there but what do I know?)

This subculture you are talking about isn't exclusively the domain of teenagers, I'm afraid. And not all teenagers are interested in drugs, raves, sex, and tattoos.

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:13pm
Here's an odd and probably completely unrelated story: Does anyone remember when the Teletubbies first came out? There was talk that kids in the UK used to snort heroin and watch it because it was so goofy. A few years ago I was talking to my former housecleaner (22 years old) and I mentioned it in a kinda "Can you believe it?" sort of way. She was very thoughtful for a moment and said that she had done plenty of heroin in her day but she had never heard of Teletubbies. How's that for cultural awareness? (And what a way to find out about someone's former drug habit...)


Edited 8/4/2003 5:03:21 PM ET by suzymomm
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:21pm
Jeez. What do you say to that? "... oh, how nice..." ?

Anyway, I never heard that story, but I remember some groups boycotting the show because they thought that one of the Teletubbies (? the purple one?) was gay because he carried a purse!

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